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amother
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 Mon, Oct 07 2024, 7:40 pm
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What should I do if anything?? Not exactly a S toy but a small bullet type massager in her nightstand. I wasn’t snooping but came across it. I checked the local drug store she can walk to and they sell it there in the intim section. I am not worried she is using it with a boy but still!!! Would you say something? If so, what???
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 7:43 pm
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No reason to say anything. It would just embarrass her. BH she’s a healthy woman with a s-x drive and found a kosher way to fill it somewhat.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 7:44 pm
Don't bring it up. Parents don't need to notice everything.
She'd also feel like you invaded her personal space.
(She may be using it to massage anywhere on her body, not specifically what you think she's doing.)
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 8:00 pm
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What would be the reason to say or do anything?
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lamplighter
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 8:45 pm
What is the goal of talking to her?
Think this through....
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 8:59 pm
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Why would you say anything?
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:00 pm
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I think you should talk to her if you can do it in a way that will decrease her guilt. So many teenagers walk around holding such high levels of guilt for things that aren't actually wrong.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:02 pm
| amother Raspberry wrote: | | I think you should talk to her if you can do it in a way that will decrease her guilt. So many teenagers walk around holding such high levels of guilt for things that aren't actually wrong. |
Who says the girl feels guilty?
Mom should not bring it up unless dd brings it up first. Mom isn't supposed to know about it in the first place.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:10 pm
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I wouldn't bring it up. Who knows, maybe she is using it to massage her back and neck. For all you know this has nothing to do with what you think.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:11 pm
| amother Dimgray wrote: | Who says the girl feels guilty?
Mom should not bring it up unless dd brings it up first. Mom isn't supposed to know about it in the first place. |
I don't know this girl, but I'm in a position where I have had multiple girls confide into me that they feel extremely guilty but have absolutely no one they can talk to.
Mothers should always be talking to their children about personal education. Whether she finds this or not. Yes, you should be talking about pleasuring to your child if you know they're doing already.
Don't be stupid. Otherwise they're going to Google it.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:14 pm
I dont even understand why there would be a point in bringing it up or what should be said
On top of that I don’t think she’ll appreciate you going through her nightstand. That’s typically considered a pretty private area
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:15 pm
| amother Raspberry wrote: | I don't know this girl, but I'm in a position where I have had multiple girls confide into me that they feel extremely guilty but have absolutely no one they can talk to.
Mothers should always be talking to their children about personal education. Whether she finds this or not. Yes, you should be talking about pleasuring to your child if you know they're doing already.
Don't be stupid. Otherwise they're going to Google it. |
I assume she’s past the point of google if she already went and bought herself a personal massager
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:17 pm
I wouldn't it tell her I found it. I would have a general conversation about these matters cuz it's something you should be doing. You want her to know she can turn to you and not just to Google or wherever else her sources are.
And on the off chance that she's being abused or is active, you want her to feel safe talking to you. If these topics are not conversations you have, she will want to turn to you when she needs it.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:44 pm
| amother Raspberry wrote: | I don't know this girl, but I'm in a position where I have had multiple girls confide into me that they feel extremely guilty but have absolutely no one they can talk to.
Mothers should always be talking to their children about personal education. Whether she finds this or not. Yes, you should be talking about pleasuring to your child if you know they're doing already.
Don't be stupid. Otherwise they're going to Google it. |
The girl will feel way worse then guilt
if she finds out that her mother is going through her personal stuff. This isn't something worth rocking a relationship with your daughter over.
And who says the daughter is pleasuring herself? Maybe she's using it for something else, we can't know.
I would've died of awkwardness if my mother would've talked to me about self pleasure. I don't think this is something most teens are interested in discussing with their mothers.
I did stuff as a teen & I was never ashamed or guilty over them. I'd be beyond mortified if my mother would bring it up with me.
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