My 8yr old daughter hates school

amother

Mon, Oct 07 2024, 8:26 am

My 8yr. old daughter hates school. I know it's not the teachers problem because I know the teachers each year and they are great teachers. And the other kids in the class are happy. This started a few years ago and it's getting worse each year. She is healthy bh. She is popular in her class, has lots of friends. I have an older daughter in the same school that tries to keep an eye on her and she tells me that my younger one is fine in school, having fun... Once in a while she finds her sad and tries to cheer her up. I'm not sure what to do about it. Every morning is a struggle to get her to school. I've tried to ask her what's going on a few times and I was never able to get to the bottom of it. She dislikes putting in the effort, like why bother. Everything is too hard for her and she kvetches about everything related to school. She's a bright girl and pretty smart. I am stumped. She's not my first child and I've never had this before. I know that if a child doesn't like school there must be a reason but I can't figure it out. Any help or tips appreciated.

amother

Tomato

Mon, Oct 07 2024, 8:59 am

Get her thoroughly evaluated for adhd and other learning issues . There is usually a mix of things going on when child is like this .
She might need meds or out of the box kind of school, or therapies . Or everything in combination. It’s a rough journey, but eventually you will get there

amother

Blonde

Mon, Oct 07 2024, 10:54 am

I have a child who "hates school" too. I put it in quotes b/c he doesnt actually hate school. he just hates not being home. he would love to just curl up on the couch all day or play quietly all day at home. he is an introvert.
he doesnt hate school. he is happy at school. but he has always hated going to school and having to deal with people all day.

oh and he has lots of friends and is very popular too. I don't get it either.

mha3484

Mon, Oct 07 2024, 10:57 am

My almost 8 year old gets a big dopamine hit from the kvetching and complaining but he does well, has a lot of friends has great teachers. I think he just gets a weird enjoyment from the fight. So I take his complaints with a huge grain of salt.