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amother
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Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:21 am
How do be a vey loving, warm and giving parent yet raise resilient kids who can deal with "stuff"?
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Perly1




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:22 am
It's an excellent question
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amother
Linen


 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:24 am
Know how to say no.
Encourage independence & let them figure things out before running to help them.
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balance




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:26 am
Are you a loving, warm, giving person who can deal with stuff?

I don't see why the two are contradictory. You can give as much as you want as long as you also teach your kids how to deal with things.
Sometimes the best form of giving is taking a step back.
It's too vague a question for a better answer than that.
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amother
Jetblack


 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:26 am
Encourage the kids to figure things out on their own but make it clear you’re there if they really need you
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giftedmom




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:27 am
Be empathetic, loving, encouraging, validating and helpful but don’t solve every problem for them
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amother
Snowflake


 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:28 am
Ah. The number one parenting question. The balance between chessed and gevurah!

Following Very Happy
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amother
Denim


 

Post Fri, Sep 13 2024, 9:35 am
Be the parent, don't engage in petty back and forth with a kid. Validate, encourage be firm but calm and loving.

Example 10yr old girl
Can I go with neighbors shopping?
I see you really wanna go, no shefela, it's not right for u to go along

Why not? Not fair! I wanna go!
I know you do,
No zeeskeit
Mammy said no

Calm
cool
no argument
no fighting
no yelling
She can beg cry scream bang doors,
but
she will feel;
Loved because u were validating.
safe because u put up boundaries. Resilient because u were calm about it. Strong because she will be ok after that.
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