I lost my job | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 8:06 pm

I lost my job. Not because of anything I did or didn’t do, there were mass layoffs. I feel like I have no one to sympathize with me, my DH is not good with this type of thing. Can you imas please let me tell you why it’s so hard?

1) I keep feeling like it’s my fault, there are things I could have done differently so they wouldn’t have let me go. Even though this is not really accurate.

2) lack of a daily schedule. So hard. I feel like I’m going to get depressed

3) worried for the future. How will I find another job? I only have experience in a very niche field, I have some other skills but I’d basically be starting out as a beginner

4) even when iyh I find another job, how will that go? It’s hard to start over somewhere new, have to prove myself. Will I like the work? My boss? The office atmosphere?

5) feeling like I’m not good enough at keeping house, now that I’m home all day, I have no excuse but I’m still just a slob and procrastinator about cleaning. And honestly finding it hard to be home the whole day with the kids (they’re off school now)

I’m not really looking for much advice, more sympathy. Thanks in advance.

amother

Chartreuse

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 8:11 pm

It’s really hard. This can easily happen to me soon too and the employees in my company are all on edge due to mass layoffs .
It’s so hard when work life is what makes us feel balanced . When that gets taken away suddenly , it feels like you’ve lost your footing and it can make you feel very unfulfilled and unmotivated in all the other parts of your life.

May HaShem send you the parnassah you need where you will thrive and be happy and at peace.

Hatzlacha Raba!

amother

Springgreen

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 8:11 pm

amother OP wrote:

I don't have any advice, but really sympathize. It's not easy to suddenly be thrust into this situation. I hope things improve very quickly, but in the meantime don't be too hard on yourself. Take the time to process and figure out how to move forward. You don't need to have all the answers now. Take it day by day.

amother

Papayawhip

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 8:15 pm

I’m in the same boat as you! It’s plain awful 😞 I filed for unemployment and I am looking for a job. I am nervous that I am a bad worker and I won’t be able to stay with my job but iyH it will be ok with Hashems help! Wishing you much Hazlocha!!

amother

Seafoam

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 8:23 pm

I’m so sorry. My company is also experiencing mass layoffs and we’re all feeling so insecure about our jobs. I already lost some great coworkers and will probably lose more or be fired myself.

You’re going through something really hard! I’m going to say a perek of Tehillim. May you find a new job that works well for your life circumstances very quickly, and be able to enjoy your time off until then. Hugs!

Frumwithallergies

Thu, Aug 29 2024, 10:38 pm

Give yourself time to grieve over the loss. But remind yourself: you are NOT a failure. You ARE employable and you ARE a good, nay, a GREAT employee. For the time being, you are permitted to use the grieving time to avoid housework. This does not make you a bad housekeeper.
You are simply recharging your batteries.
And once recharged, you will find the energy to job hunt and multi-task at home.
I am sending you a big pot of chicken soup for shabbos and a nice bundt (flavour of your choice Smile