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Saying המקום ינחם at shiva with a lot of people



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amother
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Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 7:39 am
Is it okay to just show up and leave without saying it? Should I try to make my way through the visitors and interrupt conversations?
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amother
Bluebell


 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 7:46 am
yes. everyone there knows that saying it is important. no one will get offended if you interrupt their conversation to say it
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lamplighter




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 9:52 am
Yes you interrupt and say it. That's the protocol, not rude at all.
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ra_mom




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 11:11 am
Don't leave without getting to be menachem them with this pasuk.
Besuros Tovos.
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amother
NeonOrange


 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 11:12 am
As someone who recently sat Shiva the pasuk is a true nechama. I would recommend saying it.
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amother
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Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 11:47 am
I'm pretty sure I was told to say it even if you're not sayin it to the person or they can't hear you. Not saying that's ideal, but if you're going to leave without going over to say it, you can still say it quietly. It's a tefila basically, right
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amother
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Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 5:01 pm
What about when it's super crowded? Do you have to make eye contact with them?
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amother
Blonde


 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 5:15 pm
If you make your way to the front before you are ready to leave and stand near the avel, they will acknowledge you, say the brachah and then leave
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Cheiny




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Jun 30 2024, 6:06 pm
amother OP wrote:
What about when it's super crowded? Do you have to make eye contact with them?


You can make your way over to the aveil and say it to them…
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