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amother
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 Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:02 pm
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never seen such a thing. I’ve been on a bar mitzvah on the circle line (rented out) which was both incredible but also difficult for our tummies lol.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:14 pm
| amother Firebrick wrote: | | never seen such a thing. I’ve been on a bar mitzvah on the circle line (rented out) which was both incredible but also difficult for our tummies lol. |
What's that? I'm not in the US. I'm talking about his birthday, not the actual bar mitzvah seuda, we'll do that on the Sunday after hours boi bayoim (which will be on a Monday iyH) apparently we need to do something on his actual Hebrew birthday. For example my friend made a nice supper at home with her family and her parents. Think steak , 4 course meal etc. That would be a lot for me! This is a nice way to do something a little different which will be easy for me. Can buy a tray of assorted cakes. Take l'chaims along and have a little trip to celebrate with our son in a different way. But do we need 10 men? I'm almost sure that we don't
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:18 pm
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We brought doughnuts to school when my brother was bar mitzvah. My son was born on yom tov- we brought doughnuts when he put in tefillin for the first time.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:23 pm
| amother Blue wrote: | | We brought doughnuts to school when my brother was bar mitzvah. My son was born on yom tov- we brought doughnuts when he put in tefillin for the first time. |
That's cute. We need to send something into school anyway so that makes sense for us to just do that too. I like that idea, because we anyway need to send in drinks and cakes. And the bar mitzvah boy usually goes in dressed in his suit, hat etc.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:30 pm
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Why don't you make the Suda the day of his birthday?
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:32 pm
| amother Dimgray wrote: | | Why don't you make the Suda the day of his birthday? |
Ya what's this whole bo bayom and not bo bayom business?
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:34 pm
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Because Monday isn't a good day for my husbands siblings to travel in. For the ones that can't come for Shabbos. They'd just come for the seuda, it's a 4 hour drive away for most of them.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:35 pm
| amother Ivory wrote: | | Ya what's this whole bo bayom and not bo bayom business? |
Most people don't make the seuda on the actual birthday! Often seudas are made on Friday nights. You think all these boys birthdays fall on a Friday night? We chose when it's best for us and the family that we want at our Simcha!
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amother
Feverfew
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:42 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | Most people don't make the seuda on the actual birthday! Often seudas are made on Friday nights. You think all these boys birthdays fall on a Friday night? We chose when it's best for us and the family that we want at our Simcha! |
Who makes a seudah friday night? Is that specific to a certain community/chassidus?
Everyone I know makes a shabbos for the family with a kiddush in shul and a seudah for the class (and guests) with music and dancing on a weeknight.
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amother
Seagreen
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:45 pm
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I just did a beautiful breakfast in my son's bo bayom last week Erev yt.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:47 pm
| amother Seagreen wrote: | | I just did a beautiful breakfast in my son's bo bayom last week Erev yt. |
That's nice. Thanks! Would only work on a day like an erev y't when everyone is off school and work. Mazel tov!
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 3:00 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | Most people don't make the seuda on the actual birthday! Often seudas are made on Friday nights. You think all these boys birthdays fall on a Friday night? We chose when it's best for us and the family that we want at our Simcha! |
Most people? In what circles? They do in mine as well as in the circles in my extended family- different community than me
I don't think most are on Friday nights, in fact I don't I've ever heard of a Bar Mitzvah party in a Friday night
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 3:04 pm
| amother Ivory wrote: | Most people? In what circles? They do in mine as well as in the circles in my extended family- different community than me
I don't think most are on Friday nights, in fact I don't I've ever heard of a Bar Mitzvah party in a Friday night |
Yes those that have family coming from afar often chose the date that's most convenient for them. Be it a Thursday, Friday night, motzai Shabbos ( in the winter my bil did this) or a Sunday. These are the dates that people make seudas in my circles.
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 3:12 pm
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Looks like an added expense to me imho
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 3:14 pm
What is? Apparently we are supposed to do something on the boi bayoim and we anyway need to send cakes into school for his friends so I think we'll just do that. Friday night seudas are saving people money!
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amother
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Sun, Jun 16 2024, 3:14 pm
I think it should be a seuda. I assume you are in the UK or Europe (where else do they have barges?) and I think that is a great idea. We did a barge trip on chol hamoed recently and it was great, pretty small though I think maximum 15ish people?
Bring hamotzei (bagels and spreads) so it can be a seuda.
We did just family for one son (isru chag and no local family or even friends - we are shluchim) and one with my sons classmates and teachers plus grandfathers and some older cousins came, just in a relatives home with homemade food.
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