9 yr old dd-putting to bed before megilla

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amother

OP ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:20 pm

I want my 9yr old to go to bed before megilla tonight. Is that ok or too strict? She does not do well with late nights. Tomorrow is a hectic, noisy day for her, even on her best day. I think it will be much harder for her if she's also overtired. What's your opinion?

amother

Burgundy ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:21 pm

I did the same with my 8.5 year old. Megillah is after 10 for ladies!

cupcake123

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:21 pm

I hear you.
My kids napped during the day today and all went ages 4 and up😬

amother

Red ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:21 pm

I put mine to bed. She’ll hear it tomorrow and I need her rested and feeling well.

amother

cornflower ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:24 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

I did the same with my 8.5 year old. Megillah is after 10 for ladies!

There is no reading immediately after shabbos?

amother

↑ Burgundy

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:29 pm

amother cornflower wrote:

There is no reading immediately after shabbos?

There is, but girls her age can’t go to the men’s section in my shul and she can’t sit herself in the ladies section
She was totally fine just going tomorrow

giftedmom ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:29 pm

You’re not doing a meal tonight? Full fledged late night party over here.

notshanarishona ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:29 pm

I had this debate with my husband, against my better judgment let my 10 year old stay up but only if she went to the first reading at 9 and not waiting until I go.

amother

↑ Red ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:31 pm

giftedmom wrote:

You’re not doing a meal tonight? Full fledged late night party over here.

A meal? Who has a meal Purim night?

amother

↑ OP

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:32 pm

Thank you for the replies. I put her to bed already but was feeling bad because she was so upset. Now I feel better that other ppl sent their kids to bed too. She will hear tomorrow.

↑ notshanarishona

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:32 pm

giftedmom wrote:

You’re not doing a meal tonight? Full fledged late night party over here.

We don’t as a family. My husband does it by himself. I don’t do any late night meals that aren’t a chiyuv (messes up my stomach and my night if I eat after 7/8 pm.)

teachkids

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:37 pm

I wish I could put myself to bed before megillah tonight! Our first reading is 9, and second isn't till after 10

↑ giftedmom ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:38 pm

amother Red wrote:

A meal? Who has a meal Purim night?

Everyone lol

amother

↑ Red ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:44 pm

giftedmom wrote:

Everyone lol

Who is everyone? Don’t know a single person who does.

amother

Amethyst

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:45 pm

Chassidim

↑ giftedmom

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:48 pm

What can I say? We take Purim seriously around here. It’s a full 24 hours of insanity but if you learn to roll with it it gets easier.

kenz

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:50 pm

giftedmom wrote:

Everyone lol

Definitely not everyone. More of a Chassidish thing. Many people have 2 meals tomorrow too. BH not us.

amother

Oak

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:52 pm

It's nearly 2am here (I need to get to bed!) but we had an amazing evening. BH we have a party at my sil's house. Just for family , but we get lots of lively shpeilers coming in. There wasn't a meal, but there was a huge meat board and loads of cake, dessert type things. And cut up challa for those that wanted to wash for melava malka but no proper meal. We got home at 11pm with little kids. My youngest slept for 2 hours this afternoon, and my others can manage a couple of late nights. My older boys went around with their yeshiva/ high school. All in all a successful first Purim evening BH. My daughter came to megilla with me at 9pm.

amother

Hotpink

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 6:52 pm

I'm almost positive the shulchan aruch says to have a meal tonight (no need to wash).

Hashem_Yaazor ↓

Sat, Mar 23 2024, 7:09 pm

I sent my daughter age 8 with older sisters to the first reading. My 6.5 yo was upset but I told her she can go tomorrow. She wants to know if she can go next year at night like her older sister did last year... Told her no promises, it might be based on when we change the clock.

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