How much should a mother be involved for older elementary ki

amother

Sat, Mar 09 2024, 7:38 pm

I hope it's OK to post in this section I am a parent of a 6th grader my oldest daughter. I'm trying to fuligure out if there is a norm here. My insolvent in general and in the following scenarios.

My daughter has had really experienced teachers. I hardly ever had to get involved. If ever maybe a mention of a small issues in the younger years and teachers always responded promptly. This year my 6th grader seemed to have a bigger issue. I was suprised becaused the teacher at p.ta was so positive in everything she said. I touched on a part of the issue and she agreed with me that it's a problem. She didn't mention the whole issue or anything else helpful. It was more her asking me my opinion or what I know about the small part I mentioned. The conversation didn't get to the bigger issue, I wasn't sure if I should mention it. I know my daughter's teacher is aware of the whole issue. My daughter has asked for my help and her teacher as well. I know I'm trying to help my daughter and her teacher is actively helping her too, but shouldn't The teacher be working with the parent as a team? Is this typical involvement of the parent at this age? Should I be talking more to the teacher? Part of what I would say would be like my daughter got annoyed that you suggested this. So she came to me. Its a big problem why didnt you mention anything to me. My daughter doesn't have confidence that you can....should I ask my daughter first? I think some of it my daughter wouldn't tell her teacher because she would feel it's not Derech Eretz. She would probably also feel embarrassed if I told her that I told the teacher she felt this way. What should I do? I think the problem will only grow bigger because my daughter is not telling the teacher some important information. I was also thinking of telling the teacher a little background but maybe it's unnecessary to solve the problem.

amother

Denim

Sat, Mar 09 2024, 8:48 pm

6th grade is still young and I think your expectations for a 6th graders maturity and responsibility are too advance.

I teach 8th graders and at 8th grade I try to go to the student first and then the parent when there's an issue but many 8th graders can still have challenges when it comes to responsibility.

I think a parents involvement in 6/7 grade is still reasonable when it comes to challenges that involve academics or a teacher/ adult where as with friends they should be guided to figure it out more on own for social reasons