Taking uneaten food home from your plate - ok?

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:09 am

B'Syata D'Shmya wrote:

If someone needs to bring home food then please let them. Why make an issue over food. So many good reasons to do so
Usually hunger....
Keep your eye on your own.
If that person has three on her plate and left none and you don't have, and want consider hinting if they can return one cause there isn't enough for everyone. They will learn to wait for the end to take home leftovers if they need it.
It sounds like you were hungry and didn't get because someone else took more than.her share.
Problem.is there is no "share" in communal kiddushim. Usually it's each man for himself. So try to get to the table early if this is important to you.
Try to keep the emphasis on pleasant . Don't look what pple are bringing home. It's not.worth it
Be Tayavone.

If someone brings home leftovers I would suggest the person to get tzdaka (be seter)

↑ B'Syata D'Shmya ↓

Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:18 am

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

If someone brings home leftovers I would suggest the person to get tzdaka (be seter)

Maybe they do...or are trying to get.
As a Rav in Europe once remarked - (I'm paraphrasing here:) There are more that need, than want to give"
Maybe it's easier to get it at the kiddush. 😉

What bee has gotten into ur bonnet with this? What's been triggered?

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:35 am

WhatFor wrote:

I think this attitude contributes to people treating their bodies like trash cans and not tuning in to when they're full. If you are already satiated and would otherwise throw the food out, then the better thing to do is save it for later. Your body has no use for it, it's not a trash, and it's actually harmful in the long run.

That said, the solution is to take less from the beginning. I married into a family with post-war sensitivities to not throwing food away so I'm mindful to not take more than I'll finish. But to say that "it's inexcusable" is a bit harsh, in my opinion. Some people were never taught to mind waste. If you were raised like them, you might do the same. And sometimes people miscalculate. We're all flawed. I do think we should all aim to only take what we'll eat. Better to take less and go back for doubles, or even miss out on doubles, than to take too much.

You are right. Inexcusable is a bit harsh.

↑ Bnei Berak 10

Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:42 am

B'Syata D'Shmya wrote:

No been in any bonnet here.
I do agree it's better to turn a blind eye to the schnitzel packing lady. DLKZ. But if your ask me people will and do notice at a certain point. Don't fool yourself thinking the opposite.

↑ B'Syata D'Shmya

Thu, Oct 05 2023, 11:51 pm

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

Look, I dont eat at kiddushim. A drink yes, a cracker for mezonos - rarely and only if there is an untouched plate left by the time I get to the table - I find pushing unpleasant and dont like accidental touching. I dont like eating from a platter that has been manhandled either.
Yes, of course, we have eyes and can see that some pple are piling it high on their plates.
SO WHAT.
Let them enjoy,
Can we please fargin.
We have so many eating disorders as a result of the Holocaust, the Depression (pick one), etc etc.
We have so many pple without food that we dont even know about.
Leave pple alone with their food.

amother

Apricot

Wed, Oct 11 2023, 8:30 am

I was thinking about this thread on simchas torah. My shul has a massive lunch, free, and they have more than enough for everyone. My stepdaughter was with us and her friend, and they were shocked at how there was zero pushing and everyone waited so nicely for their turn in line. Also how all of the food was spread out on all tables, so you could get the same things from any particular table.

Then I laughed as I carried a plate of cookies home with me. Why? I took some to share with my husband at lunch, and he took some to share with me! So we had two plates... and extra cookies (like 5 cookies). No one else at the table wanted, so what should I have done? Left it there to be thrown out? No, I took it home (and others did also). And to be truthful yes, I did grab one extra vanilla rugelach to bring home because OMG IT's SO GOOD.