What gifts are given to chassidish chosson

amother

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 8:15 am

Which gifts are expected to be given and when are they given? BP Chassidish, not Lubavitch chassidish…

losingweight

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 8:21 am

Depends which yom tov you have during the engagement. Customary is watch, becher and judaica. Most also get a menora, esrog box and some a megilla. Then there's the birthday which can be a siddur or challa dekel/challa board or something more gashmius like a belt. If the chusen is gonna go overseas, most kallahs give a travel suitcase with baked goods and a tehillim.

schoolbus ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 8:22 am

No rules but this gives you an idea

Shas set for shavuos
Machzorim for rosh hashana
Becher for sukkos
Esrog box for tu beshvat
Megillah for purim
Watch at tenoyim
Suitcase when he goes on trip
Leather Siddur/tehillim set for his birthday
Or leather wallet….

amother

Ruby ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 8:30 am

It really depends on what time of year the engagement falls out.
These are the basics that everyone gives
Watch at Tenoyim
Becher for a Yomtov
Machzorim for Yomtov
Chosson package (Taalis, Tefillin etc) week of Aufruf

If the engagement is during Chanukah most people give a Menorah.
If it's during Succos or Tu Bshvat some people give an esrog pushka, but others don't.
If it's Purim, some people give a Megillah but others don't.
For milestones like birthday you can give a wallet
Many people also give a Shas certificate

It really depends what you want to spend on, and what your family/community does. In many communities they uphold tekanos, and in some families they go overboard. I would encourage you to ask the people in your circles.

amother

↑ Ruby

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 8:32 am

I didn't see the replies before I posted mine. Seems like we all said the same thing. Hope it's helpful!

amother

Burgundy ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 2:53 pm

How about kallah gifts? What does she get for her birthday?

So far we gave:
a silver necklace at the lechaim
tennis bracelet at the tenoim
watch for Pesach, also flowers

What comes next? And what for her birthday?

Machzorim/siddur/tehilim for RH, right?

Are we supposed to give a diamond necklace or earrings at some point??

Someone told us photo album of the chosson, is that true?

mirelcakes

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 2:58 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

Yes, it's true about the chosson album. You collect pictures from when he was a baby till current and make an album. It's cute to make a photo book. You can do it through Snapfish or something like that.

amother

Eggshell ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:00 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

For a kallah, it's usually bracelet at lechaim, diamond ring at tenoyim. Yes, most get earrings and necklace as well. You can give earrings for shevuous and necklace for yichud room. Candlesticks for shabbos before wedding.
When are you planning to give the diamond ring?

amother

Diamond

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:07 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

Never heard of a kallah getting a silver necklace.

amother

Salmon ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:08 pm

amother Eggshell wrote:

I got over 20 yrs ago:
Bracelet at lechaim
Daimond ring at tenoim
Watch for my birthday
Fancy Shalach manos for Purim with siddur and a tehillim
I got necklace and Machzorim for Pesach Yom Tov and then earrings for yichud room.
Flowers for Shabbos kallah - got married week of Shavuos.
Leichter for Shabbos sheva brachos.

amother

↑ Burgundy ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:20 pm

amother Eggshell wrote:

Someone told us to give it for Shavuos. We can't wait much longer than that, I guess, although I think it's ridiculous to give three such expensive pieces of jewelry so close together.

Earrings for Sukkos?

I forgot about the candlesticks, thanks. I mean, I knew we have to give them but forgot just now.

amother

↑ Burgundy ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:22 pm

amother Diamond wrote:

Never heard of a kallah getting a silver necklace.

Me neither, but I was told it's the fashion in the place where the kallah lives, so I did it. The $50 wasn't much in the larger scheme of things.

amother

↑ Burgundy ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:24 pm

But her birthday gift? It's coming up soon and I need to know if there's a required gift Banging head

or if I can give something I actually thought of myself.

amother

↑ Bottlebrush

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:45 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

But her birthday gift? It's coming up soon and I need to know if there's a required gift Banging head

or if I can give something I actually thought of myself.

Birthday gift is optional & definitely no rule on type of gift. People give handbags, other accessory etc.

amother

↑ Salmon

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:47 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

But her birthday gift? It's coming up soon and I need to know if there's a required gift Banging head

or if I can give something I actually thought of myself.

Some kallahs get one of the official gifts and others get an additional Bday gift. It’s up to you.
Not every girl gets exactly the same thing.

amother

Mulberry

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:51 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

Me neither, but I was told it's the fashion in the place where the kallah lives, so I did it. The $50 wasn't much in the larger scheme of things.

Really? So interesting. I wouldn’t wear a silver necklace as a married woman… it needs to be polished… my jewelry is gold

↑ schoolbus ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:55 pm

Birthday you can get an evening bag, a crossbody, a cheap weekday ring, a nice vanity set, a cosmetic bag, a diffuser…

↑ schoolbus

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:56 pm

And if you can still work on a chasan baby album that’s probably the most exciting gift the kallahs wait for

amother

↑ Eggshell ↓

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 3:57 pm

amother Burgundy wrote:

Diamond ring for shevuous and Earrings for sukkos is a good choice.