Shidduch inquiries/Ridiculous edition

animeme

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 4:43 am

ddmom wrote:

I like that question. The way it's answered can potentially tell a lot.
And it's a little original.

I like it too. I also like the shiur question, though I might phrase it differently. The thing is that without these questions, all you hear is "She's wonderful! Not to loud, not too quiet. Perfect balance!" About almost everyone. You have to ask questions like this to get actual answers.

↑ Chickensoupprof

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 5:51 am

Does the mother buys from kidichic or only from Alispecials and Alipicks?

Java

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 6:56 am

theoneandonly wrote:

Is she the type to set up the party, be the life of the party, or clean up after the party? (Real question I was asked)

I don't hate this actually! A bit creative but not inappropriate
Definitely a thinking question

anonymous mom

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:07 am

shaqued_almond wrote:

A friend was asked: was your mother tehora when you were conceived?

It sounds ridiculous-but that's actually a very valid inquiry.

↑ happytobemom

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:09 am

anonymous mom wrote:

It sounds ridiculous-but that's actually a very valid inquiry.

No it's not. It doesn't change her status in any way.
And how in the world should anyone know that??

scruffy

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:09 am

anonymous mom wrote:

It sounds ridiculous-but that's actually a very valid inquiry.

I don't think that anyone, even someone with tons of yichus, can guarantee going back in time that taharas hamishpacha was always kept..

So no, I do not think that this is a valid inquiry.

seven-up

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:31 am

Real question I was once asked about an out of town girl:

Would her family expect her and my son to fly in for yom tov? That could add a lot of stress to a marriage especially once there are kids which would cause shalom bayis issues

imaima

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:32 am

giselle wrote:

Is her name Kaila?

Is her name Ivanka?!

Surrendered

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 8:53 am

theoneandonly wrote:

Is she the type to set up the party, be the life of the party, or clean up after the party? (Real question I was asked)

I heard this in a similar way but more logical- to find out her personality type.
Would she arrange a party, attend the party or rather stay home?
Is she loud/outgoing/sociable or an introvert?

↑ BatZion

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 9:55 am

theoneandonly wrote:

My mother is a shadchan and a guy once asked her to find him someone who is "concentration camp skinny."
Yes, my mother gave it to him.

Every single one of your real-life examples shocked me. But this one?! Hashem should save us. Like really.

nightingale1

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 10:05 am

anonymous mom wrote:

It sounds ridiculous-but that's actually a very valid inquiry.

How in the world would anyone else know??

doodlesmom

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 10:46 am

Will she be mad if her husband forgets to come home till really late at night cuz he’s learning?
Real question asked….

hotpretzel

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 12:13 pm

I was asked to describe my friend from head to toe

zoom

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 12:19 pm

Some of these questions are actually good questions, and you can tell a lot about the girl.
And some of them made me actually laugh out loud! Very Happy

To the question about the tights, I assume that was more of a tznius question, because generally the jewish brands are not as thin, and less see-through then the non jewish shops.

Living Princess

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 12:24 pm

hotpretzel wrote:

I was asked to describe my friend from head to toe

They probably wanted to know if she paints her toe nails LOL

Librarian

Thu, Sep 29 2022, 6:52 pm

My son is in shidduchim. I called her seminary menaheles. After hearing general praises I asked the following questions: Did she come to class? Did she get along with the other girls/was she involved in any "drama"? Do you know of any mental health issues? That's it. I must be a bad mother.