Is asking for Jewlery too much?

elananh

Tue, May 06 2008, 5:39 pm

My husband has been getting me Jewelery for my birthday for the past 5 years that we're married, I guess he felt that that there is nothing else to get for a girl (ha haha) anyhow not that we're married 6 years with couple of kids and expenses are more than they were in the past, my b-day came and went, my DH said we'll go to the Jewelery store, but I see he's not anxious about it and prob wishes I would come up with something else. I thought about it and I'm not sure what to do. (I dont usually spend tons of $, just something small, but that even costs couple of hundred $)

Love My Babes

Tue, May 06 2008, 5:45 pm

if u got jewelry the last 5 years, dont u want something different? theres so many different gifts u can get that are not as expensive as jewelry, but dont need to be cheapy either. what about a nice perfume or new pocketbook? im sure theres something out there u can come up with that wont cost 100s of dollars and u can still enjoy it.

Rutabaga

Tue, May 06 2008, 6:15 pm

Jewelry is an easy present to get a woman - it doesn't really require much thought. That is assuming that your dh knows what you like. My father stopped picking out jewelry for my mother years ago. Now she goes to the jewelry store herself, picks out a few things she likes, and then tells my father to choose from her selections.

As for me, the first couple of gifts my dh bought me were jewelry. I know people say "you can never have enough jewelry," but I had a nice collection before I was married - gifts from my parents and grandparents. Now there are other things I prefer to get. We moved into a house last year and we decided that getting furniture took precedence over personal items. So my birthday present was the couches I really wanted and dh's present was wall-to-wall bookshelves for his seforim.

The year before that, my birthday present was this extremely warm, comfortable robe that I really wanted. My mother told me I could have bought that for myself and have dh buy a nice piece of jewelry. But I get more use and enjoyment out of the robe than I would from some fancy bracelet that I would only wear a few times a year to weddings.

So I guess the question is what do you really want? And what would you really enjoy the most? Enjoy being the key word. You might get the most use out of a new iron or a bread machine, but you would not want to get that as a present. Smile

MMEC123

Tue, May 06 2008, 6:41 pm

Maybe I'm going far out here for saying this but do you need to get anything? My DH is also great at getting me gifts but the past few occasions I feel like there's nothing I need and I'd rather save the money. Sorry for being so boring...

yo'ma

Tue, May 06 2008, 6:48 pm

MMEC123 wrote:

I agree, there are other things that are so much more meaningful (and cheaper).
My dh used to buy me jewlery, but he got smart and stopped because I hardly ever wear it. For my b-day, I like just to go out to a restaurant or a walk with my dh, or just a happy birthday.
If he buys you jewlery every year, wow what a yerusha! I'm thinking that because my grandmother was just niftar and my mother is giving all her jewlery to the grandchildren (us) and it's tons, costume and real.

heffer569

Wed, May 07 2008, 8:29 am

I have a totally different situation. My husband hates buying me jewelry and I LOVE it. So I buy all my own jewelry. He also loves to pick out gifts himself, this makes for some interesting gifts. Last year he bought me a refirdgerator. I already had 2 brand new ones and he bought me a third. He said it was so I could cook more but come on. This year My parents bought me a very expensive cocktail ring and he was like you already got a present so he bought me a card and put a 5 dollar bill in. I was like Ok.
I think as long as your happy with the gift and it comes from the heart even if it is a fridge than its fine. My mom always gets jewelry also. She has a huge stash. This year my dad decided he is going to give her a new driveway and garge door. Its not that they cant afford to do both and get jewelry but my dad said after awhile it gets to be for him that he is going to buy another peice of jewlery. sorry for the long post