What is chassidish life like?

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Sun, Dec 30 2007, 8:56 pm

that's not a fatchaila. a fatchaila looks liek a black stocking stretched over a super shaved head.

↑ Squash ↓

Sun, Dec 30 2007, 9:08 pm

I know mamabear. lol. I just really look like a r' ahrele in the pretied thing.

↑ amother ↓

Wed, Jan 02 2008, 4:33 am

As long as this thread is still alive I wanted to ask a couple more questions.

1. For those of you who are part of the alrger Chassiduses (Ger, Belz, etc) is ther personal connection to your Rebbe through a long family connection? How is the personal connection with the Rebbe created and maintained?

2. When and if someone marries outside of the Chassidus they grew up in how does it feel? Do you feel like an outsider? Is there a lot of adapting involved.

Thanks

↑ Motek ↓

Fri, Jan 04 2008, 10:53 am

Motek wrote:

chocolate moose wrote:

The word shtark is never used in Chabad, as far as I know. Everyone just does the best they can.

first I heard it used was by the poster shira, whose husband is learning in kollel (not chasidish)

it's not generally used in yeshivish circles

seems like it comes from the MO crowd who move to the right, like Shira

here's another example:

freidasima wrote:

I haven't stated any views in any direction in what I am writing, my personal views are what you could call "shtark MO" (we have a tv so I can't call myself Yeshivish)

↑ rachel19977 ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:11 am

I wonder if any of the Chassidish ladies in Monsey or Williamsburg would like to get into coversation?

↑ creativemommyto3 ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 5:47 am

I wonder also because I am sure that they have loads of beautiful things to say about the way they live.

I strongly believe in "Ayzeh who chacham halomed me kol adam".

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 9:17 am

after what I was accused of the last time I stuck up for williamsburg I'm afraid I'll have to refrain from discussing willy/KJ for a while Very Happy

Do you have a specific question though?

↑ creativemommyto3 ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 9:22 am

Do you get involved in the money matters of the house or do you leave that to your husband since your primary role is that of the homemaker and mother?

↑ Maya ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:33 pm

creativemommyto3 wrote:

Do you get involved in the money matters of the house or do you leave that to your husband since your primary role is that of the homemaker and mother?

Do you mean if we pay the bills, or if we have a say in what we spend on?

↑ creativemommyto3 ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:36 pm

meaning do you know how much money is in the bank? does he pay bills on time? do you know how much debt you are in? how responsible is he about paying bills on time? or do you just trust that all is being taken care of since that's his job?

↑ rachel19977 ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:38 pm

sleepless-n-ny wrote:

one thing ill say-chassidish life rox!!!!!!!!!!

LOL I have my share of questions for you one day if you won't mind me being open about it and you need to be willing to answer! Very Happy

↑ flowerpower

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:51 pm

dh has no idea what the bills look like, I do all the banking stuff

rachel-no problem-ask away

↑ Maya ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 3:54 pm

creativemommyto3 wrote:

Why is this different by Chassidim than any other group? I don't think this is a Hasidic issue at all. There will always be women who do know, and women who are not involved, in all groups of the world.

↑ Beauty and the Beast

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 4:18 pm

bills have nothing to do with chassidish or not. depends on what u and ur husband decide what works for you. I know what is going on in the bank, but my dh takes care of the bills, because he is more responsible and organized than me.
but in many homes, its the opposite. depends what works for ur marriage. does not depend on chassidish or not.

chayitty ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 4:49 pm

ok I didnt really read all the pages...I dont have that much patience...but if I read correctly someone said that an outsider walking in willi will get stare..I think this is true but I think its true about any commuinty..a chassdish (looking) lady walking..say..in the five towns will also get stares...I thiink some chassidim rock and some bring an ebraasment to the word chassidish ...but then again u have that with every group of people..

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 5:16 pm

actually, I dont know how much money is int he bank and how high our bilsl ar BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO KNOW. I'm not the breadwinner in our family, and I dont want to worry about how all the bills will get paid. I'm glad dh takes care of the bills, and that's all.

Esther23

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 10:52 pm

I don't think the bills / money issues have anything to do with chassidish, it's totally a personality thing, every couple has some with the woman more organized and paying the bills. Also given that today many many chassidishe women are working they're completely involved in the money issues anyway.

↑ chayitty ↓

Tue, Feb 26 2008, 11:46 pm

thats right...lots of chassdish woman work and theyre hub. learn
and if not ...theyre both working......my dh takes care of the bills but I usally know wats going on....I dont know exactly wat goes on in the checking account...but I knoiw exactly wat geos on in savings

↑ amother ↓

Wed, Feb 27 2008, 1:25 am

Regarding the "shpitzel": some people have a minhag not to wear a sheitel, so when going out instead of wearing a sheitel they wear a silk tichel with the shpitzel, some concoction (for lack of a better word) with either silk fabric or silk threads in the front, in dark brown usually.