keeping a child home to babysit

↑ Ruchel ↓

Sun, Feb 24 2008, 4:33 am

I sooo agree creativemommy.
My fil didn't know how to do even a cup of coffee. So, when he was out of the house (he only came back on week ends) he would eat at the restaurant three times a day!! It didn't do him any good on his weight and health and he passed from heart failure. Sad

I told dh when we were dating that I wasn't from a family where the man is on a superior place and the woman does everything and he should know it. B'h he agreed to do something different, because he also wanted a very different type of couple/family than how he grew up.

Blossom

Sun, Feb 24 2008, 5:32 am

For those that are saying that boys and girls should have an equal standard and amount of education....There still is an obligation for our boys to learn Torah that isn't there for girls.
However........The obligation to help around the house, to do chessed and etc is equally on both boys and girls.
That is My Humble Opinion.
And that previous poster was right. You train the boys right and you turn them into helpful husbands.

↑ Ruchel

Sun, Feb 24 2008, 5:37 am

Totally agree. Of course boys have to learn, while girls only have to know halachos pertaining to their every day life. I don't think boys and girls have to learn the same things in kodesh (anyway, in Jewish schools, they don't - even co-ed schools separate classes for kodesh, because girls don't learn Gemara and things like that), only in chol.

↑ creativemommyto3

Sun, Feb 24 2008, 6:12 am

Blossom wrote:

raizy ↓

Thu, May 29 2008, 10:09 pm

I wouldnt feel bad about keeping my son home from cheder if needed. I am being in theory bc my kids are too small. and it never happened yet.

why is it different to keep a dd home but no a son home .... why the double standard. I think they both need a good education. and yes chessed for a sick or needy mother should be first. if I had an appointment and all my backup where not available I would make my kids stay home from school to babysit. I dont care if it is a boy or girl.

o.k. I have 4 boys and only one girl so I am baised. but still. and it is easier for a boy to catch up his learning then my girl. and boys also need a day off school every now and then.

↑ raizy

Thu, May 29 2008, 10:14 pm

being a mother of many boys. why shouldnt boys help around the house. my boys help. they put the dishes in sink or garbage. they clear tables. they clean their rooms and make their beds. they can line up all the shoes nice . they can pick up all the stuff from the floors. clean the toy room. babysit the younger siblings while I cook.

who should do all that if not them . me no thank u I have plenty to do without that on my list.

chaylizi

Thu, May 29 2008, 10:47 pm

the school I went to allowed a certain number of "parental excuses" for the year. anything above and beyond this number resulted in unexcused absences which reflected on that girl's grades. I'm sure the boys school did not have an equivalent rule though. parents really need to be sure not to unfairly burden their children. a girl in my class who was the oldest of 14 was always absent. her mother had a baby, was making a bar mitzvah, whatever...

mugsisme

Thu, Jun 12 2008, 11:16 pm

I allow my kids a few ditch days throughout the whole year. (not every month, every few months.) They are allowed to say that they want to stay home and I notify their teachers and they make up their work. Sometimes we do something, like go to a special park I wouldn't normally go to. Other times, they just want a day to shoot the breeze. My DD asked to stay home last Friday, and said she would help eruv Shabbos with cleaning & cooking. When I told her teacher, she told me I was wrong to keep her home and my DD is lazy and won't help. When I told her on Shabbos how much help she was to me, the teacher sort of snorted and told me I was wrong to keep her home. (It's my child and my decision!)

My boys are expected to help, and they know it. But not at the cost of learning.