I want you to get married but I don't

Mitzvahmom

Sun, Dec 16 2007, 7:29 pm

so I had my first experience with my kids friday...

For some reason, an old friend decided to talk to me in front of my kids.. So I introduced him as kids this is my friend xyz..

My youngest, responded by starting to kick trees. Which surprised me.

When I asked him later, "why did you start to kick trees?"

He responded with this, "Mommy I donot want you to marry that guy."

I was so surprised!!! All this time they have been pushing me to get married and this is his respond to "friend."

So I said, "why not?"
To which he responded, "your supposed to marry your beshert not your friend."

Before I could explain or discuss it. My middle child over heard the discussion and walked in and said

middle Ds "mommy weren't you friends with daddy before you married him?"

to which I responded, "yes we did become friends first."

so my middle DS turns to my youngest and says "see they were friends first, so this guy is a friend. Mommy are you going to marry him?"

to which I responded, "um..we are just friends now."

My youngest turned to me, "mommy it's ok if your friends but I cannot say you can marry him until I meet him. Because I do not know if he is nice. I have to talk to him to see if he's nice, ok mommy? Then you can marry him."

I had to laugh, because it was so interesting how kids think. I hugged my young ds and said I love you, please do not kick anymore trees they are innocent. He hugged me and told me he loves me too, and that it's ok with him if I go out with my friend motsei shabbos that it's fine with him.

Honest had not planned it.. embarrassed