All black to a simcha...

miriamnechama ↓

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 5:03 pm

just wondering. would you wear all black to a wedding?? I heard in some places it's not accepted cus black is a sign of mourning??

but comeon, 1. the non jews do that, 2. I personally feel tha t black is very elegant even a plain suit and 3. what I would wear to a wedding I wouldn't wear to a funeral!!!

What do you think??

loveit

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 5:07 pm

I usually wear all black. But it's festive, a taffeta skirt, cashmere sweater, beaded cardigan, shiny patent leather shoes, etc. I think it looks really good.

As for funerals, even if I wore all black, it would look VERY different, nothing shiny and sparkly.

I think black if appropriate for simchas. I think color is also nice, but it's easier to buy and match things in black, as it is, easily 75% of my clothing is black.

Ruchel ↓

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 5:24 pm

I also find black too "sad" to be worn from head to toe, simcha or not. I have not paid attention that much to that, but I think you rarely see all black to simchos I attended.

↑ miriamnechama

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 5:25 pm

right, I don't kow which sect don't go by black... but I heard it once. also all mine is mainly black, but I've see non jews in london wear thia all black formal suit for a funeral which maybe I'd wear for a simcha..... though I don't have any formal suits in black so wouldn't know.

and when I did have a levaya it was weekday clothes and not black!!!

so what's this whole business??

↑ Ruchel

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 5:34 pm

interesting, there are groups who forbid black?
I have heard of "not mixing black and red", of "no red", but not "no black".

chocolate moose ↓

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 7:35 pm

these days, anything goes. wear what you have and what's flattering.

Yudit

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 7:35 pm

let me tell you something black is now in style blue is considered yontshey and black is very classy . I would wear black it is elegant.

lubmommy

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 8:35 pm

It's very common to see people in black suits at chasunas.
The practice of wearing black to funerals is a non jewish custom. I recently heard on a Living Torah interview that Rebbetzin Chana wore white to Reb Levik's levaya. That seem to make more sense and in accordance to Jewish customs.

faigie

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 10:16 pm

wearing white makes much more sense, its very much a yom kippur for the nifter. I think that the chinese (Japanese???) also wear white to funerals

su7kids

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 10:55 pm

faigie wrote:

wearing white makes much more sense, its very much a yom kippur for the nifter. I think that the chinese (Japanese???) also wear white to funerals

Maybe Vietnamese, not sure, it is definitely some orientals, because I know that they stopped nurses wearing all white in hospitals because ti scared them. That's why Scrubbs now come in all those pretty colors.

MyKidsRQte

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 11:17 pm

People wear black to simchas bec. its the most slimming

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Sat, Oct 20 2007, 11:26 pm

And dressy stuff usually has to be cleaned. And white gets dirty evry time you wear it.

lamplighter

Sun, Oct 21 2007, 5:48 pm

there are communities in new york city that everyone wears black at the simcha!

amother

Sun, Oct 21 2007, 6:03 pm

Most people that wear black do so cos it is "safe" eventhough very few poeple look good in black. In fact, black makes most people look sullen and pale. Color analysts would tell most of the women wearing all black that it is the worst thing they could wear. It is amazing to me how many times I see people wearing all black and wonder if they looked in the mirror and noticed how "dead" they look. Go with colors that suit your complexion not with what is safe.

↑ chocolate moose

Sun, Oct 21 2007, 7:22 pm

It's true.

The few plain black robes and snoods to match look terible on me; my kids call them my "funeral garb".

I have a pretty rosy pink robe that is much more flattering, makeup or not.