Food at Bris - Milchigs or Fleishigs?? (your opinion)

amother ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 10:28 am

What type of food do you think a Bris should have?

Milchigs?
Fleishigs?

DH says that from the time of Avraham Avinu the Jewish ppl. served Fleishigs at a Bris (or any other Simcha for that matter), as it says: "Ein Simcha Ela B'Basar V'Yayin".

I think Milchigs is nicer at a Bris....

What do you think???

HindaRochel

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 10:32 am

I prefer milchigs as well, but whatever the family wants... aba and ima get to choose; ima if she is doing the work and if it is being catered, well let aba decided if their is a debate.

Mama Bear

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 10:33 am

flaishigs is the minhag... but I find that only in the real chasidishe communities like willy do ppl still do it.

Raisin

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 10:34 am

I think if you serve fish it is also ok. If you and your guests keep 6 hours and the bris is early in the day it can be a pain to be fleishig.

I didn't serve meat at either bris I made. We had smoked salmon and whole baked salmon, as well as cheese and other things.

Also can you afford it? It could make it a lot more expensive.

shabbatiscoming

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 10:37 am

mama bear, here is israel the minhag in most places is also basari, but I would take a good bagel and cream cheese brit any day over a meaty brit:)

Ima'la ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 11:06 am

Actually, in E"Y, the price is not so different. We might have done fleishigs, since that's what's common here, but both our brisos were early Sunday morning, and the caterers said there wouldn't be time to prepare the food after Shabbos for such an early morning Sunday bris, so they'd be preparing it Thursday night. We didn't think the schnitzel was so impressive the first time around that we'd want to eat it reheated three days later...so we went milchigs. Everyone seemed to enjoy it. We had an American crowd for the most part anyway. (And there was fish.)

chocolate moose ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 11:15 am

It's a seudas mitzvah, which means fleishigs. That's what we had at DS's bris, but since then I know it has fallen out of fashion...not that the halacha has changed, mind you.

Opinions here notwithstanding; ask your rov.

↑ Ima'la

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 12:31 pm

But fleishigs would help you avoid sable-bone mishaps! LOL

(Ah, Imamother bekius!)

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 12:33 pm

Ima'la wrote:

But fleishigs would help you avoid sable-bone mishaps! LOL

(Ah, Imamother bekius!)

Awwwwwwwwww..................You remembered that?

Mrs. XYZ

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 12:42 pm

I think milchig became the american minhag. It should be fleishig since its a seudas mitzva, but the minhag 'changed' since ppl. have a hard time eating such a heavy meal so early in the morning.
By us we had fleishig for the men and pareve for the ladies.

lamplighter ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 1:13 pm

CM, apparently in chabad/CH the "fashion" is to have milchigs for everyone andone sall table of cold cuts/fleishig for the mohel/father and a few others.
Thats how it was by my nephews

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 1:19 pm

since when do shuls allow milchigs and fleishigs at the same simcha?

Dini

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 2:14 pm

we also have meat for the men and mil for the woman, it seems that many shuls will allow it

↑ lamplighter

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 3:03 pm

Dunno but they were all in CH, can't explain the policy for them

greenfire

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 3:10 pm

hey I've seen many a yeshivish bris with meaty too ...

I'm into the bagel, lox, ideas with smoked fish ... and deviled eggs and pasta salads ... and anything that goes along ... much tastier to the palate in the morning ... goes better with coffee ... and still a wonderful simcha ...

so where's the poll ... this one would have been easy Wink

p.s. whatever makes you happy ... and don't forget a bisul l'chaim Drunken Smile

Marion

Sun, Sep 09 2007, 11:39 pm

Honestly, I think it depends on the time of day. I would never serve fleishigs before noon, and many britot are, in fact, in the morning hours. I just hate being fleishig so early in the day (and yes, I prefer milchigs generally). However, if one makes a bris at lunchtime or later I see no problem with making it fleishig.

(And I'm not a big believer in the whole idea that a seudat mitzvah can ONLY be made on fleishigs. If you have enough for hamotzi, technically it's a seudah.)

BeershevaBubby

Mon, Sep 10 2007, 12:05 am

Our bris was Erev Shavuot and we did it Milichigs - bagels, lox, cream cheese, vegetable platter, cheese platter, egg salad and tuna salad.

One of DH's Israeli relatives was there and she said she'd never seen such beautiful milichig platters and said the food was some of the best catering she'd ever eaten... and this is a Chiloni (secular) Sabra, so it was quite a compliment to Holy Bagel Smile

We also ordered a bit extra and had bagels for the Chag.

catonmylap

Sun, Sep 16 2007, 12:03 am

We also had Holy Bagel catering. Dh feels there's no reason you can't have a seudat mitvah with dairy.

The pidyon haben was fleshig. I pushed for having it later in the day, and once it was, it made more sense to have fleshigs.

TzenaRena

Sun, Sep 16 2007, 1:55 am

The first was on YomTov, actually Shavuos, so the only time we considered milchigs, but fleishig won because the mohel told us it was a segulah for the child to become a Talmid chochom! So it was a regular YomTov seudah.

The other brissim had a parve menu, with cold cut platters.

gryp

Sun, Sep 16 2007, 6:56 am

We always do fish. Can't imagine eating fleishigs at 8 in the morning. Puke