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lotte

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 8:43 pm

I'm so upset!my 9 ys old daughters started talking like a baby recently.
I thought she was trying to be cute.today it was a little bit too much and I asked her:why are you acting liek this?
she told me the honest truth in very simple words:
For attention!
I felt like crying!
Nebech-I feel so bad for her!
I was sure we give all of them equal amount of love and attention-what do I do?

mimivan

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 8:47 pm

Oh....
But teneleven, look at it this way...at least you don't have to go through all the pain and the time and this and that to figure out what she wants.
Baruch hashem, she told you!!! She wants attention!
She really has a good head on her shoulders and knows how to ask for what she needs. Smile

And maybe she just needs more attention than usual now. So if you can, give it to her.

ny21

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 8:58 pm

thank g-d my kids never fought for attention
maybe because they are all so close in age.

withhumor

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 9:53 pm

I think she needs some alone time, time spent not necessarily alone with you, but alone with her talents, such as a special class (piano, painting, dancing). A place where only she can shine and come home and talk about it. it’s doing magic for my kids.

amother

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 10:14 pm

ten, it doesnt mean that you didnt give equal attention, but there are some kids that need more then others.

chocolate moose

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 10:16 pm

Yeah. Equal means what each kid needs, not to just split up the time equally.

healthymama

Sat, Apr 07 2007, 11:28 pm

all kids want attention. What are you so upset about ? It doesn't mean you don't give her enough. Just that she wants more. Like dessert. Everyone always wants more, even if they have had enough.

HindaRochel

Sun, Apr 08 2007, 12:11 am

Ten the fact that she can tell you what she needs/wants is a good sign. So you can love her up a bit more. Ask her what she wants from you...what she wants you to do with her and try and figure out how you can reasonably do what she wishes. If she wants your attention from 7 till bedtime, that's obviously too much if you've other children as well. But perhaps she just wants you to snuggle with her a few minutes before she goes to sleep.

Don't feel bad. Kids always want more from mom.

greenfire

Sun, Apr 08 2007, 10:00 am

do something FUN with her like your nails together or her hair ... you'll both feel good!!!

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