Gift for chosson from the kallah

amother ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 8:12 am

I gave my husband a palm pilot when I went for shabbos cuz he loves electronics.
some of my friends who just got married bought an ipod, others brought something he can use on shabbos like a siddur etc.

shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:06 am

um, anything that they want? amybe something that has to do with their dating. I gave my husband a doll that had signifigance to him.

DefyGravity ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:22 am

I didn't know that you're supposed to give a present while dating.

About a month or so after we started dating, DH had a birthday, so I got him a watch that had his team logo on it. I remembered him telling me that he used to have a team watch, and he loved it, and hadn't replaced it since it broke several years ago.

↑ supermom ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:25 am

I bought my husband while engaged a lot of things.

As for the electronics like the ipod he has one already.
I thought something on the lines of a nice pair of pj pants with hearts on it?!? Unless I am weird.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:25 am

DefyGravity wrote:

there is no rule about it, I think that if you feel like giving one, you give, if not, you dont.

BeershevaBubby

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:28 am

supermom wrote:

I'd think that's a tad intimate... maybe save those for the Yichud room.

What about an IOU for a Motza"Sh date... where the Kallah pays for everything?

chocolate moose

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:40 am

A Kallah is going to her chosson's house for shabbos? staying there?

she shoudl bring something for the host/hostess; his parents!

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:43 am

SaraG wrote:

A Kallah is going to her chosson's house for shabbos? staying there?

she shoudl bring something for the host/hostess; his parents!

no, obviously not to sleep in the kallahs house. but if you are spending shabbat with your chatan for the first time maybe, it is special and you might want to bring him something. I know the first time we spent shabbat together, I stayed in his neck of the woods, he gave me fowers, mind you, I was staying at someones house, but they were for me:) so its just a nice thing, thats all.

and to add to what defygravity said.....in my situation, my chatan was in yeshiva, not in his home country and I was living on my own already, so I was put up by a married friend by his yeshiva......thats all....

↑ DefyGravity

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:51 am

Sorry, I wasn't insinuating that you stayed with him - just saying that not everyone lives with their parents (I didn't, and neither did DH).

My husband lived about 3.5 hours away, so we would alternate weekends from the time we started dating and would each stay somewhere near where the other lived. It was a pain going back and forth, I'm definitely glad that's behind us now!

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 9:56 am

DefyGravity wrote:

I agree totaly.

my husband and I like to remember how we used to hav to wait for the bus after a date untill one of us went home:) baruch HaShem thats also in the past:)

↑ supermom ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:13 am

SaraG wrote:

A Kallah is going to her chosson's house for shabbos? staying there?

she shoudl bring something for the host/hostess; his parents!

They buy them a gift by the first shabbos. After that every time they go for shabbos they bring him/her a gift.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:15 am

supermom wrote:

SaraG wrote:

A Kallah is going to her chosson's house for shabbos? staying there?

she shoudl bring something for the host/hostess; his parents!

They buy them a gift by the first shabbos. After that every time they go for shabbos they bring him/her a gift.

supermom, you wrote that as if it is set in stone:) its not, everyone does things differently and there are NO rules in dating and engagement, you do what you feel is you and what you feel is right.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:30 am

supermom wrote:

Nay I know that Smile

But I was saying that is what THEY do. Smile

aahhh, got it:)

↑ amother ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:41 am

Am I the only one who was told it was ok to sleep in the same house before we were married? (We slept on different floors.) My DH even slept over once or twice before we were engaged.

mimsy7420 ↓

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:43 am

amother wrote:

Am I the only one who was told it was ok to sleep in the same house before we were married? (We slept on different floors.) My DH even slept over once or twice before we were engaged.

It depends on who told you it was OK.

I was under the impression it was a big no-no

↑ shabbatiscoming

Tue, Oct 31 2006, 11:46 am

amother wrote:

Am I the only one who was told it was ok to sleep in the same house before we were married? (We slept on different floors.) My DH even slept over once or twice before we were engaged.

I think that it really depends on who you ask. we asked one rav and he said that it was a big no no but I am sure that there are others that say that it is not such a big no no.