What's your Tisha B'Av schedule?

Isramom8 ↓

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 7:33 am

Here is ours:

Erev Tisha B'Av - Seuda mafsekes: bread, eggs, ashes, water. Everyone sits on the floor in their own corner.

Tisha B'Av night - DH and older kids go to shul. I read Eicha and kinos at home, and take care of younger kids.

Tisha B'Av Morning - DH and older kids go to shul. I read Eicha and kinos at home, and take care of younger kids. Kids eat breakfast on the floor, generally making a huge mess. Computer use is not allowed, except for the Chofetz Chaim video (that DH has because he shows it at his community kollel). Kids can read sad books, color and play quiet games.

Tisha B'Av Afternoon - DH comes home and rests. The whole family reads Holocaust and other sad books. We prepare for the break-fast seuda. When DH goes back to shul, I daven Mincha at home and set up the meal.

Dimpled

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 7:39 am

That is a beautiful schedule.
We don't really have one yet as we are only married three years my kids are very young.
But there are shiurim I would really like to go to- one Tishaa B'av night and two the next morning. I also hope I can somehow get to shul to hear Eicha.

freidasima

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 7:53 am

Sounds good Isramom.

Here the kids are adults, of the two home these days one will be working The rest of us, eicha and kinos at shul, home to sleep. Dh hashkomo and eicha, me sleep late and kinos at home, Morning reading sad stuff, dh giving a talk about the beis hamikdosh to his people, me home sleeping and on computer. Work is closed but there are always urgent things happening that I have to be apprised of and decide about. Afternoon get up off the floor, read, computer, start preparing food, dh to shul I daven mincha at home, dh comes home, dh goes back to shul, end of fast.

And all day long being in touch with my daughter who is not allowed to fast because she is 39 weeks pregnant and having contractions on and off for two weeks already. Will see if grandson comes over, if so, tell him stories and keep him busy and off her hands.

ChossidMom ↓

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 9:26 am

I live in a home without a schedule.
In the evening dh is in shul doing his thing and I am home with the kids. Later on, I surf the web looking for an eichah reading. Also, if I find a good shiur for Tisha B'Av I watch it.

This year my 13 year old may be running a kaytana in my living room so things will be hopping here. In the past I used to go to Neveh for their all day shiurim or to Midreshet Rachel. This year I think I will skip being out in the heat, especially since my mom no longer lives in Har Nof ( I used to pop in after the shiurim).

So, I wil probably daven in the morning and say some kinos (don't know if I'll get through all of them) and then I will try to find some good Tisha B'Av classes that I can watch on my computer. Alternatively, I may go to Moshav Mattityahu for Kinos because Rav Leff goes through them, explaining them, until Chatzos. It's right nearby but last time I went I was hot and that's a problem for me.

My daughter's kaytana goes till 5:00 pm and if she doesn't do one I will definitely send my little ones to someone else's kaytana. There's no way I can watch them here. I'll probably do alot of sleeping/resting in the late afternoon. Then I'll get up and throw together some food for dinner.

grace413

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 9:36 am

Seudah mafsekes
Read eichah at home
Read something non-entertaining.
Talk on the phone to DH (he's in chul)
Sleep
Sleep
Wake up, look at clock, try to go back to sleep.
Give up and read in bed
Whimper and moan about how miserable I am (this year as an added attraction I have a terrible cold)
Sleep
Speak to DH when it's AM in the States
Stare at clock until it says 19:54.

↑ Isramom8 ↓

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 12:33 pm

One year I worked on a shidduch. Part of it involved emailing a very frum woman. She had no problem working on a shidduch on Tisha B'Av.

Someone once said that he postponed contacting me about a shidduch till after Tisha B'Av, and I reprimanded him.

↑ Isramom8

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 12:39 pm

I bought a few more Kinos at the bookstore today. The salesman wanted to know if anything was wrong. I said that I just don't like doing this. I don't like the fact that my kids get older and more kids are reading the Kinos.

Tomorrow, chas veshalom, I will gather all our Holocaust and sad books, and arrange them on the dining room table.

chocolate moose

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 4:15 pm

Thank you for reminding me about the eggs, I just put ours on to boil.

I go to sleep pretty much after dh goes to maariv by night. By day I will moan and spend a lot of time in bed.

We will trade off computer time. Maybe I will bake or make something for after the fast.

newbie

Sun, Aug 07 2011, 4:30 pm

Thank you all for posting, I found some very good ideas for myself! I dread the day since I have a toddler at home, but my husband and I will take turns so we both can go out and watch the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Video. Inspired by this thread, I will now cook some eggs and look for the Chofetz Chaim Videos from previous years (we usually buy them).

So here's my schedule (or my wishful thinking schedule ;-) )

night: Like everyone, DH is in shul, toddler hopefully asleep and I'll read Eicha at home.

Morning:
Dh in shul, I feed the cutie and then might go out with her while I still have the koach! Later she'll hopefully (!!) nap so I will too.
After that it gets hard for me, usually I have a low around 3pm.
I'll ask DH to take over, he can play in the garden with her which she loves anyway and we don't have to shlep ourselves outside.
Then Video watching (me),
then DH Video watching,
then bed routine for cutie (MUST be done together I guess, too hard to do it alone by then...)
and then I might lie down till the clock says "You can eat!"