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ny21 ↓

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 5:07 pm

I have been to simchas - and have seen whole tables

with no shows ! ( bar-mtzvah:S )

I have been to simchas and have noticed when I was on my way out lots of
seating cards still remaining! Crying

Last edited by ny21 on Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:51 pm; edited 1 time in total

Pickle Lady

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 5:49 pm

thats sad...but happens

cindy324

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:46 pm

Do the hosts still have to pay for all those no-shows? I hate when people are so inconsiderate, they should think how they'd like to pay for people they'd invited but didn't show! All it takes is a phone call or send back that darned RSVP card...

↑ ny21 ↓

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:49 pm

Some people sure have some chutzpah!
yes you have to pay for your no shows !

su7kids

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:53 pm

Of course you have to pay for your no-shows. You tell the caterer the week before how many people you're expecting, and thats the amount the cater and charge for.

I think no shows are worse than people who don't RSVP and then show up.

I don't know what the solution is, but its very infuriating.

↑ ny21 ↓

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:53 pm

IF you can - when you make your simcha
ask the caterer to write into your contract
that he will allow 4 no shows
if 4 people dont show up =
you dont have to pay for them .

nicole81

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:55 pm

4 is nothing. I was just at a sheva brachos months ago where there were 8 large tables set up. only 2.5 ended up being filled. it was so sad to see.

↑ ny21

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 6:59 pm

that is terrible !

shopaholic

Tue, Aug 29 2006, 7:02 pm

Unfortubately my parents have had that. Only 1 or 2 tables out of 8 on the ladies side, but still. So many ppl say they're coming & don't. I find it hard to believe that every one of them had a very good exciuse. I think ppl just don't care enough.

elkayed

Wed, Aug 30 2006, 12:35 pm

Most caterers make 10% more food in case ppl show up without rsvping. I am not sure if you have to pay if you use it all but they always have extra in case.

supermom

Thu, Aug 31 2006, 4:41 am

My brothers bar mitzvah was like that. Sad so much food left over. My mother gave it to his yeshiva for the next days lunch.

ssbarnes

Thu, Aug 31 2006, 6:30 am

Yes, caterers do account for 10% extra. Usually contract are written that you pay a certain amount per person and they do charge for no-shows (since that is the number you set in your contract), as well as extras if you go over the set amount of guests.

At our wedding, we had a friend break a hip the 2 days before the wedding and he couldn't fly. His son's family stayed behind to care for him. They called us and it was completely understandable.

I was more upset that we had a couple who showed up with their 5 children. My MIL had told them it was OK without letting us know.

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