chassidish women fasting?

red sea

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 10:25 am

I remember a thread on this a while back but have no idea where to find it and more than a few chassidish women said they do fast. I remember also posters saying they (outside of childbearing years) didn't if their fathers told them not to.

pina colada ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 10:28 am

Can you explain what Dollars is?

Isramom8

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 10:31 am

I think this is supposed to be a joke, but it's said that Chassidishe women don't fast because they are either pregnant or nursing, and if not, obviously they have some physical problem.

Is this mean?

↑ Ruchel ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 10:33 am

Yeah yeah, the frei say that about the frum too. It's not just mean it's stupid. And stop making fun of others' minhagim, thank you.

↑ First Lady

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 10:40 am

Isramom8 wrote:

Yes, it is. It's mean and false. I'm not pregnant and I'm not nursing and I'm not fasting. Neither are my sisters and some friends I've spoken to and none of them have any physical problems either b"h. (Some are actually on Birth Control. Gasp!)

usher

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:04 am

I'm chasidish and always fasted as a girl, my father insisted on that.

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:09 am

I don't see how people's fathers are poskim.

↑ Ruchel ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:12 am

chocolate moose wrote:

I don't see how people's fathers are poskim.

They are guardians of the tradition.

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:16 am

you dont ask a dayan or rav every single thing. fathers also know halacha, and some fathers decide on the traditions in their family.

↑ Mama Bear

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:16 am

but anyway, chasidishe poskim are lenient on fasting. I was allowed to break my fast the day of my wedding since I had a bad headache.

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 11:16 am

Mama Bear wrote:

you dont ask a dayan or rav every single thing. fathers also know halacha, and some fathers decide on the traditions in their family.

I do. I keep a list.

hello

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:13 pm

What difference does it make who fasts & who doesnt? everybody should do what they want or are told to do.... I am a bad faster so I dont fast... Chassidish or not it has nothing to do! better yet bring me where it sais that ladies have to fast other than yom kippur & tu baav

↑ sarahd ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:17 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

Mama Bear wrote:

you dont ask a dayan or rav every single thing. fathers also know halacha, and some fathers decide on the traditions in their family.

I do. I keep a list.

So that's you. There are plenty of men who are well-versed in halacha and don't have to ask a rov every single question of halacha that arises. I used to ask my father my halacha questions; very rarely did he feel the need to ask the rov.

Mrs. XYZ ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:18 pm

shalhevet wrote:

Ruchel wrote:

Nu... Dutch wait only 1 hour between meat and milk, (most) Sefardim eat kitniot on Pessach, and many chassidish groups hold women only fast tisha beav and Kippur.

One has nothing to do with the other. But if I write why I won't be popular around here. (Hint: the first two minhagim are in full accordance with the SA.)

Shalhevet, my husband told me that the Brisker are very lenient when it comes to fasting. True?

Hashem_Yaazor

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:33 pm

Some people's fathers ARE poskim...most poskim do have children!

↑ chocolate moose ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:43 pm

So, good for the posters whose fathers are poskim. My husband also has smicha.

Fathers are also nogayah bedovor .... so I ask my shaylos to a rov !

↑ Ruchel

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 12:52 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

So, good for the posters whose fathers are poskim. My husband also has smicha.

Fathers are also nogayah bedovor .... so I ask my shaylos to a rov !

It's not a shaila it's a minhag.

↑ sarahd

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 1:45 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

So, good for the posters whose fathers are poskim. My husband also has smicha.

Fathers are also nogayah bedovor .... so I ask my shaylos to a rov !

This is not a TH shaila, where negios make a difference. This is pretty straightforward. My husband might be nogea bedavar when it comes to a muktza shaila, but he still knows the halachos and can tell me or my kids - or himself - if something is muktzah.

↑ bubby ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 2:11 pm

flutterfly wrote:

Can you explain what Dollars is?

After the Rebbetzin passed away the Rebbe used to stand outside his office in 770 handing out new dollar bills to anyone who passed by, with a Bracha. if it was a special occasion (birthday for example) or the person wanted a special Bracha from the Rebbe for herself or for someone else, she quickly asked the Rebbe. Sometimes the Rebbe gave an extra dollar or two along with the Bracha.

The idea was to encourage Tzedaka & we kept those special dollars & substituted old shmekky ones & gave them to Tzedaka instead. We have stacks of them & DH wrote on each one whose it was & the date/occasion. The Rebbe stood sometimes for as much as 9 hours distributing thousands of dollars every Sunday. It was a perfect time to get a special Bracha, but in my family we saved it for important occasions or for when the need was great, so as not to cause the Rebbe to stand any extra time.

It was an incredible sight to see. People of all faiths (but mainly Jews), colors, degrees of observance, lined up in all weathers. I remember I was expecting my son the year the Rebbetzin was niftar. That year, the Rebbe gave out from his house on President Street. I went in my 9th month & because I was so ginormous the ladies all pushed me to the front of the line & I waddled up to the Rebbe. I said I was in my 9th & the Rebbe said to me "Here is another dollar for the baby when HE'S born. So I knew it was a boy...at least, I thought that's what the Rebbe said, but it was very quick & I wasn't sure I'd heard correctly. Obviously I did!!

I remember it all as if it was yesterday. Very hard to have such special memories & not be able to have those experiences any more.

↑ bubby ↓

Mon, Sep 21 2009, 2:14 pm

Back to fasting...still fasting, although my mouth feels like sandpaper. I'm not hungry, but I could use a few Advil! (Backache, not headache.)