More toilet training...

prettynails ↓

Tue, Aug 18 2009, 12:10 pm

To add to the other questions asked in the past two days on this topic.....

I started toilet training my son 2.8 years last week. He's been really good about number 1 and even has his diaper dry after naps or evening sleep.

The problem is with number 2. He's scared to release into the toilet. He's had accidents on the floor and in the underwear, or he holds himself in the whole day. Oh, and when it comes out, he screams as if he has no control over something and it's just happening to him.

Any ideas how to transition him well into this stage?

btw, when do I start night training?
thanks

Mirabelle

Tue, Aug 18 2009, 12:16 pm

I don't really have any chizuk, as my DD is about the same age (will be 3 in October) and we are just starting to finally get somewhere with the toilet training. With her it was the opposite, number 2 she "got" right away and number 1 has been harder. I have found that the solution for number 1 is a)to have her in real underwear, so she can feel that she is wet and 2) make sure she can race to the bathroom.

I think what helped us with number 2 is that we could anticipate when she needed to go (passing gas, or starting to make "the face"). A few times we actually carried her to the bathroom when she didnt want to stop what she was doing to go.

I understand what you are saying about the fear aspect. I just think this whole thing is new for them and so its scary. I know when we put underwear on DD the first time she cried and screamed. Now she can wear it the whole day.

Oh, and I am big believer in prizes and bribing...so far it has worked wonders for us!

sneakermom

Tue, Aug 18 2009, 2:41 pm

Buy some prizes you know he likes and put them on a shelf or in your china closet where he could see them but can't get to them.

Explain that when he will be ready he is going to make number two on the toilet and he will get a prize.

Meanwhile when he makes in his pants I would reflect to him, for example, "Yossi you are very upset and scared....you didn't want it to come out" Wait. Maybe he will say something to express himself. If he doesn't I would hug him and tell him that mommy is here, now he is very scared and soon he will learn how to do it and he won't be scared anymore.

Then I would take the underwear and discard the number two in the toilet and say that is where it belongs.

Do you have another kid around his age that doesn't mind him hanging around while he uses the toilet...it would be great if he could see someone else do it, and even take a peek how it looks in the toilet and flush it down.

Then you could say brother used to be scared to make in the toilet and now he knows how...he isn't scared anymore soon you won't be scared either.

And use this slogan whenever you can....when you will be ready you will make number two in the toilet.

When he does make number two in the toilet clap and congratulate him on his achievement.

You will see with a little time....he will become quite the expert.