Potty train a month or two before giving birth?

Seraph ↓

Sat, Jul 18 2009, 9:49 pm

My son is quite young but seems more than eager to potty train. I keep him diaperless for up to four hours every day, sometimes as little as 30 mins, but on average he's diaperless an hour a day. Aside for one time when he was too distracted by playing, he hasnt had a single accident in the month or so I've been doing this...
He enjoys peeing on the potty, loves to sit on it, forces himself to pee even when he doesnt have to- he loves to pee so much.
BUUUUUUUUUUT...
He's young.
I'm due in 7 weeks.

I have a 4 week vacation in which I can potty train him fully, or try to.
Drawbacks are- he's young. Perhaps it won't go too easily.
Other draw back- I know kids regress often when they have a new sibling. Especially if they were just potty trained right before the birth of their new sibling. Is 7 weeks to close to the birth to potty train him, or far enough away that the two won't be connected?

Keep in mind- I'm not in a rush to potty train him. I'm perfectly ok with him being in diapers for the next while. He'll only be 2 in september.

However, if I should want to potty train him in the next 6 months, my only 2 vacations are now and over sukkos, and sukkos will be a month after I have a baby. So now is my chance if I want to do it.

I know if you try to potty train a kid too young, if they're not ready, it can backfire and when you go to potty train them when they're older they'll have resistance.

I also know that if you miss the window of opportunity in which they're ready, they'll resist it when you try to potty train them.

The only indication I have that he might not be ready to be potty trained is that sometimes, after an hour or two diaperless, he'll say he had enough and wants to wear a diaper. If he ever asks for a diaper, does that mean he's not emotionally ready? Physically he's very ready, and verbally he is very advanced and able to communicate with me easily when he needs to make...

What do you say? Train him now or not?

anewday

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 9:21 am

for sure now! u have plenty of time and its the best thing u cud do for yourself b4 baby #2 comes. I would suggest start with day time potty. no need to stress bout naps and night times for those use daipers. during the day, put it into the routine, like first thing in the morning, b4 and after every snack and meal, right b4 bed. accidents will happen but place him into the bathtub and have him clean it up. he is young but he's not a "terrrible 2" yet with resistance and his own opinion!

drumjj ↓

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 9:39 am

I personally think its silly to rush toilet training especially for the reason there is a new baby. I have seen so many children regress from things like a new baby and being toilet trained too young and then you just have to start from scratch when they are a bit older and do it again. if he isnt even two or is just two what is the rush. eventually children grow up and dont spend their whole lives in diapers so why rush something like that

Mama Bear ↓

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 11:53 am

I would not potty train a kid under age 2. he will definitely regress when there's a new baby, as many kids do, and you'll be up to your neck in cleaning up his accidents. I know you're eager, but beleive me it'll be easier to do it when he's a litle older. and you dont need to have a four week vacation to do it. You start on a weekend, which gives you 2-3 days, then you continue in the afternoons when your playgroup goes home. If you do it now, not only will it be difficult for you physically - believe me I did it before my baby was born, but my kid was 2y9mo old!!!! - but he might totally regress or only be halftrained when the new baby comes and then that'll be even more disastrous.

You can try for 2 days and see if he totally gets it and abandon the project if it doesnt work out.

ShiningThrough

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 1:41 pm

Seraph, b'sha'ah tovah!
My take on this is this: Don't push it, continue to let him be diaperless for periods of time throughout the day, but have no expectations of complete potty perfection or success, especially because of the big change about to occur in your lives. He needs no pressure now, and there's really no reason to push it because as you say, he's really young. I haven't heard many success stories for training boys that young. Let him practice and start gaining self control but without expectation that he's doing it full-on, for real- at this point. Allow him (and YOU!) the space to go at his own pace. Why start something that you'll inevidibly become distracted with in the near future? And you're big, so why the extra bending, etc. for you now? When he's really ready it'll be much quicker, easier and successful! Good luck!

↑ Seraph ↓

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 10:38 pm

drumjj wrote:

Did you read my whole post?

Quote:

Keep in mind- I'm not in a rush to potty train him. I'm perfectly ok with him being in diapers for the next while. He'll only be 2 in september.

↑ Seraph ↓

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 10:39 pm

ShiningThrough wrote:

He needs no pressure now, and there's really no reason to push it because as you say, he's really young. I haven't heard many success stories for training boys that young.

Kids who use cloth diapers tend to be potty trained at a younger age (because they realize from a young age that pee=wet bec cloth diapers arent ultra absorbent as are disposables)... And my nephew was successfully potty trained at a few months older, a nephew who didnt use cloth diapers.

↑ drumjj

Sun, Jul 19 2009, 11:49 pm

Seraph wrote:

drumjj wrote:

Did you read my whole post?

Quote:

Keep in mind- I'm not in a rush to potty train him. I'm perfectly ok with him being in diapers for the next while. He'll only be 2 in september.

yes I read ur whole post but seen as uve done alot of different posts about potty training its obviously something ur thinking seriously about wether u say ur not in a rush or not. if ur not in a rush then y do u keep posting questions and asking about it all the time. he is still a baby, let him be one for a little longer.

Mirabelle

Mon, Jul 20 2009, 3:46 am

We attempted to start with DD when she was about one year 9 months. Well, then we moved and she totally regressed (which I had heard can happen) and so all of the progress was lost. Now she is 2 years and 9 months and we are going hardcore as she needs to be trained by the time the school year starts. We are also training her this time right on the toilet (with the special insert seat) and since she is a "big girl" now she can get on and off the seat herself.

I guess all kids are different. You can give it a shot, just don't be upset if he regresses with the major life changing event coming up soon! Very Happy

↑ Seraph

Mon, Jul 20 2009, 5:08 am

drumjj wrote:

Seraph wrote:

drumjj wrote:

Did you read my whole post?

Quote:

Keep in mind- I'm not in a rush to potty train him. I'm perfectly ok with him being in diapers for the next while. He'll only be 2 in september.

Thinking seriously means that I think its do-able, not that I feel I need to. I'm taking my son's lead, and because he is taking a strong lead, that is why I'm posting about it. If he werent interested and werent doing these things already, I'd completely ignore the idea of potty training...
I think I'll go with what shining through said- just continue with his lead, but no pressure or rush.
Btw, about it being way too early- this is just a recent thing that kids have been in diapers till 3 or older. You really think 20, 30 years ago kids were in diapers at those ages?

Btw, I dont see how potty training takes away someone's "babiness"... And honestly, if you knew my kid, you wouldn't say "He's still a baby." He's really not. He's a big toddler and his best friend is almost 3- they're nearly on the same level...

↑ Hashem_Yaazor

Mon, Jul 20 2009, 10:28 am

No, but I don't think age necessarily means as much as emotional and physical readiness. Without seeing Uriel, I can't say anything for him, but I can say that it's not a given that regression happens after birth. (Another point though is my son has never been separated from me, and that probably helped...I understand that it's not reasonable for everyone to spend the first night after having a baby at home with other children, but it probably did help my son adjust so much quicker. He remembers coming home to the baby after camp with fond memories and didn't have any setbacks...so my experience could be very different from others'.)

chocolatemilk

Wed, Jul 29 2009, 8:37 pm

I am potty training now and dd will be 2 in september (I'm due in november)
im not pushing it at all just ready lots of books about the potty and and have the potty out for her she likes to sit on it
today she made on the potty for the first time (2x) and we made a big deal about it
she still wears a diaper most of the time inbtwn
I'm letting her go at her pace and if she regresses after the baby comes
well then atleast it'll be a little easier to retrain then start from the begining
I say follow his cue if he seems interested go for it
he is not too young
but dont make yourself crazy trying to train him