Sending a newly trained child to day camp...advice please

Twizzlers ↓

Mon, Jun 29 2009, 6:09 pm

We started training ds a week ago. After about 3 days, he understood what was expected of him (we make in the toilet, not on the floor, not in diapers). The thing is, he holds it in for a long time. and dances and dances until I practically force him onto the toilet, at which point he wants to come off and complains that he is "finished already". I try to distract him, because as soon as he relaxes, it all comes out and then he is thrilled to pieces, sings hooray, demands his treat...Only twice within the week did he say "I need to make" (and actually did it) but it hasnt been repeated.

But on Wednesday, he starts day camp. and I cant expect a morah with 20 other little boys to distract him on the toilet for 20 minutes until he does his business. And I cant let him hold it in from 930-2 every day, although I know he is capable of doing just that.

I will not put him back in diapers, so please dont suggest that he is not ready. He IS ready and able, he just takes transitions very hard and needs time to get used to the "new way we do things".

Do you think I should make a stop at day camp at about 12 and take him to the bathroom? Please help me make this work.

Pineapple

Mon, Jun 29 2009, 6:14 pm

He might tell his morah that he needs to go esp. if he see other kids doing so.

If you can stop by I would for the first few days but dont let him see you - see how he is doing and ask the morah or assistant

Mommy3.5

Mon, Jun 29 2009, 8:52 pm

1- he will drink less there and need to go less.
2-he will respond differently to his teacher then he does to you
3- the teacher has done this many times before, and all you need to do is tell her he's newly trained.
4- my sons been trained for 6 months and has only told me he needs to go twice. Sometimes he says his belly hurts. Most of the time I take him whether he wants to or not....

↑ Twizzlers

Tue, Jun 30 2009, 10:43 am

Thanks for your replies.

We had orientation today, so I was able to scout the place out and get a feel for the other kids.

1- he barely drinks at home; I'm hoping he will be drinking more at camp as its hot and there will be playtime outside

2- he's in the 2-3 year old group, so there are only a handful of trained kids. which I cant decide if thats a good thing or not. good because there arent so many kids that need the bathroom so he can get some more attention, bad because I was kind of hoping for some peer pressure in this area.

3- the closest toilet to his classroom is down the hall and in a different classroom...which I'm not so happy about.

I'm not really nervous about him having an accident. it happens, and the morahs are prepared to take care of it. what I am worried about is him holding it in until I come at 2 (which he is capable of doing) and I dont know how I can avoid that.

speciwoman

Tue, Jun 30 2009, 10:56 am

Twizzlers wrote:

I'm not really nervous about him having an accident. it happens, and the morahs are prepared to take care of it. what I am worried about is him holding it in until I come at 2 (which he is capable of doing) and I dont know how I can avoid that.

He can hold it all day until 2:00!!!! I can't even do that (though I am 38 weeks pregnant...).

I would give him a chance. Maybe he'll surprise you. Is he in big boy underwear? Can he get special camp underwear (I.e. make a really big exciting deal about what a big boy he is and his special camp underwear)?

Good luck!!!

amother ↓

Tue, Jun 30 2009, 11:22 am

I sent my daughter to school after she was trained for 3-4 days with underwear only and she was fine. the teacher said that she reminded her about it and she went with the other children. he will probably go with the other children as well and many times the teacher will remind the children to go. it will be fine iy"h.

↑ amother

Tue, Jun 30 2009, 11:27 am

I work in a playgroup that has 30 kids in the class. we make sure to take the newly trained ones more often. it works out.
they end up going when everyone else goes, plus we take them in between also.

Aidelmom

Tue, Jun 30 2009, 11:27 am

I think you should tell the morah your concern so that she can be on board with this. Maybe she can make sure he goes at least once during the day and even bribe him (like with a sticker) if he doesn't want to.