Chutzniks? anyone else's dh's going to EY for Lag B'Omer?

Mama Bear ↓

Sat, May 09 2009, 8:48 pm

I'm so nervous, dh is iyh going tomorrow to EY for a week. He deserves it and I'm gladly 'letting' him go, but I'm nervous... how I'll cope on my own for 8 days, I'm scared to sleep alone, plus I'm always scared when someone flies on a plane. I wish it were already next Monday so I'll see him land home b'sholom... so is anyone else outside EY going to go through this, this week? I need support...

ChossidMom ↓

Sat, May 09 2009, 8:55 pm

My husband is going but we live in E"Y. We have the chalake of our 3.5 year old!
I can still empathize though. It would be very difficult for me to have my husband leave me for a week. It's especially hard when your kids are small. Hang in there and don't forget that BIG YESHUAS come from the Rashbi. Imagine how in the old days noone could go there if they lived out of E"Y. Today it's a hop, skip and a jump. I have to tell you - Meron is the place where I most "connect" when I daven. More than the kotel. It's got a very special atmosphere and add Lag B'Omer to the deal and you've got the best conditions for your tefillos to go straight up.

Rabi Shimon will surely help you get your yeshuos after your sacrifice and difficulty. Lefum Tzara Agra.

So, I'm not sure if this is the chizuk you wanted but it's the EMES.

Hang in there and tell your dh to daven hard.

e1234 ↓

Sat, May 09 2009, 11:52 pm

dh wants my family to go - I guess we are going to do it but I'm nervous about bringing the kids with all the crowds of people. The last time I went on lag baomer was 6 years ago when we did chalakah for my son.

↑ HooRYou ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 12:27 am

e I have seen people who tape their cell phone #s to their children's backs just in case they get lost. If youa re watching them though don't expect to daven much. Maybe have DH go alone.

CM, thanks I feel better now even though I usually do go and I love it even with the crowds. I find that once you get to the zion it is all of klal Yisroel and everyone is just davening. I think it is beautiful.

grin ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 12:50 am

You're not the only ones - I don't dare go at night, either! I don't think anyone with small children should go into the tziyun at night - it's sakanas nefashos. (I heard that this year, they're not letting women inside at night at all.)
Last year, I went with the younger set in the afternoon, after their parade - it was nice and calm by then.

↑ e1234

Sun, May 10 2009, 1:11 am

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I have seen people who tape their cell phone #s to their children's backs just in case they get lost. If youa re watching them though don't expect to daven much. Maybe have DH go alone

I agree - dh is insistent that just going is worthwhile.
I don't expect to daven much as I'll be watching them and I hate crowds. What we probably will do is I'll pass the kids on to dh for 20 minutes and he'll watch them while I try to get in.
I really would prefer going another time when it's not so full but I think he already got the bus tickets because he really wants to do this.

↑ HooRYou

Sun, May 10 2009, 1:29 am

at least enjoy it. Take your kids to the upsherin pavillion next to the tzion. Less crowded and cute. Also, don't bother trying to get inside the Ohel. Just find a quiet place along the outside and you will make it home still 3 dimensional.

freidasima ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 1:45 am

Mazeltov CM! Much naches.

Mama Bear it isn't easy but you are getting the zechus of his going, of his tefilot, and think how willing and happy he will be to help you with the kids when he gets back after a week of ruchniyus!

windowsill ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 3:56 am

Mama Bear wrote:

Yes, me! my dh just left this morning and will be returning next Sunday night IY"H. I am also nervous - staying home alone with 4 small kids, but the worst is Shabbos, no carrying - stuck@home and making Seude by myself (boohoo..!)
He is actually flying right now and pretty nervous. I got some good DVD's from all your suggestions - thanks! and I'm just hoping this week will fly fast!!

Raisin ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 6:37 am

Mama Bear wrote:

I find I can manage quite well with the kids alone, but at night it is really hard. and at least the cooking is easier.

shvigs

Sun, May 10 2009, 7:21 am

ChossidMom wrote:

I'm not going. I can't deal with the crowds LOL

Boy can I sympathize. DH goes every year, and every year we go through the same shpiel...."please come with me ....yadda yadda yah" and every year I'm replying "absolutely not. I can't stand the crowds". Oh well. (This is going on for close to 20 years- but DH sure is a persistent guy Smile

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I look at it as a sort of mini vacation. No formal dinners, reading in bed till as late as I want, not being tied down to being home for the hour or so in between his homecoming from work and running off to his shiur, and so on.
Mamabear: can you get an unmarried sis or sis in law (or other female relative) to sleep over for the week and keep you company?

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 7:29 am

thanks windowsill! BH at least for shabbos I'm moving in to my parents, I would not let him stay for shabbos if I had to stay home all shabbos indoors and make seudos by myself, that would be nervous breakdown city!!! BH I have where to move into.

as for DVDs - I'm not really supposed to watch dvds, so as tempted as I am to catch up on the last 2 seasons of scrubs, I'm gonna use all my self control not to, but rather go to bed early so that the midnight runs and dawn awakenings won't kill me Very Happy

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 7:32 am

shvigs, I dont want to be a burden on my single SILs, I'm not sure they'd do it gladly. I do however have to ask one of them to babysit for an hour as I REALLY want to go to purple rox's wedding!

HAPPYMOMMY ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 10:11 am

I'll join you Mama Bear and Windowsill. Except that my dh already left last week Thursday and we already spent a lonely Shabbos at home. I'm home with my 2 little ones and I'm babysitting my 5 yr old nephew for 10 days.

I was going to get some dvd's to watch but decided against it for several reasons. I took advantage and I've been going to sleep by 9:15!!!

↑ Mama Bear ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 10:28 am

glad to get some company out there!!! BH at least Shabbos I wont be alone. and yeah, it didnt seem like a right tiem to wtch DVDs.

cant wait to hear that my dh landed b'sholom... flight leave in an hour iyh.

ra_mom ↓

Sun, May 10 2009, 10:32 am

Hi there Mama Bear, windowsill and HAPPYMOMMY! My dh left for Israel too!
May all of our husbands come back to us B'Shalom, safe, and healthy!