Already Three and doesnt want to go to the toilet!!!!!

Twoisacharm ↓

Mon, Apr 06 2009, 9:10 am

Major Help Needed!!!!!

My son just turned 3 and isnt interested in being toilet trained....he changes the subject completely whenever I bring it up. Ive tried letting him run around without a diaper...pee was EVERYWHERE - I tell him all the time to tell me when he needs to go - he just started to tell me that he made.
the doc told me to wait til he is ready - ppl have told me to tell him that he cant wear titzis (it doesnt work....)

He was a very early speaker so its not like he doesnt understand wat I am telling him - he just conviently has selective hearing...HELP!!!!! I cant take changing him anymore and he is starting school in September and he has to be trained by then.....got any ideas?!?!?!?!

NotInNJMommy

Mon, Apr 06 2009, 9:18 am

My son was 3 yr and 2-3 mos when he was finally ready, and it went rather easily. the next few mos, we'd have to remind him to "pish" for another few mos (the other kind he was ok with), but he was even dry at night, for the most part, and totally at naps.

I know some other children who weren't ready until closer to 4. If he's not ready, it probably just means to wait another month or 2 and then try again. At this age, it usually doesn't mean there's anything wrong, cv"s.

natmichal

Mon, Apr 06 2009, 11:07 am

My daughter was "almost trained daytime (pee only when reminded) and slept through the night dry at 2 1/2 and then stopped altogether and went back to nappies (maybe b/c she couldn't deal with poo?). She refused to go back. at three I asked her again and she answered "I want to be a baby for a bit longer" shock

four months later she asked for her underwear again and then it was real quick. I won't write here how it went for ds b/c it's too long, not quite over yet and he has a different history than most "normal" kids.
but the point is - ask your ds why he won't go. some point he will - either he'll be fed up being with a nappy or it will just be plain peer pressure.

su7kids

Mon, Apr 06 2009, 2:00 pm

I have a son who is an adult with a beard now who was almost 4 when he was ready. Nothing worked until then, so I just gave up. Finally, he said he wanted "real tools". So I went to Toys R Us and found real tools and said, choose which one you want when you use the toilet. He chose one, and at that age it was ok to leave them in the store and go and buy underwear while we were there (those where the days before babys r us!) and he chose a 3 pack. the first one he pee'd in, I said "remember waht that felt like before it came out?" he said "yes" . I said, "Next time, do it in the toilet". Same with the 2nd pair which were poo'd in. By the third pair, he was done.

I told him he had to be clean and dry for 3 days and then we'd go back to the store and get the tools.

We did and now, at 19 he doesn't make in his pants anymore! (Seriously, find something he really wants and make it contingent. He can do it). But don't push, don't force, and too bad if he can't wear tzitzis yet. Unless he really wants to, then that is the contingency. By the time he's 19, you won't notice that he was a year later than the "majority" of the world!

Oh, and my son NEVER had a single accident after that. That's why I believe in "the later the better".

↑ Twoisacharm ↓

Tue, Apr 07 2009, 7:23 am

greenfire wrote:

get rid of the diapers he won't have a choice ... Idea

arrrrrgh tried that - had poo and pee everywhere.....I was not laughing altho now it seems quite comical.....he didnt care he just carried on as usual.

I like the idea of going to toys r us....gonna try that over chol hamoed (its better then cause my dh is home and im working Twisted Evil

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↑ Twoisacharm

Tue, Apr 07 2009, 7:55 am

seriously.............I need a magic wand............

I dont get it - my mother says that we trained ourselves (she is kinda like sergeant major) y wont it work for meeeeeeeeeeee?!?!?!?!?

and no she is like a sweet pussycat when it comes to her grandkids Rolling Eyes

so sending him there to be trained wont work either lol