Rebbe and Morah who potch at home

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:46 pm

Im so upset that a Rebbe and Mechaneches that my kids are lined up to have, potch at home.

If they don’t have enough common sense and knowledge to understand how potching is so harmful, how can I trust them with the chinuch of my kids.

I want to respect my kids teachers but this is making me nauseous.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:49 pm

amother Orchid wrote:

How do you know what they do at home?

Their kid told mine that they potch in their house.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:51 pm

amother Dustypink wrote:

I never heard of a morah that potches.

As a mother she potches. To her own kids, not to students. She is a respected mechaneches.

amother

Dustypink

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:53 pm

amother OP wrote:

As a mother she potches. To her own kids, not to students. She is a respected mechaneches.

Then it's none of your business.
It doesn't mean that she's not a good mother & it definitely doesn't mean that she's not a good morah.
As long as it doesn't effect your kids, then it's none of your business.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:54 pm

amother Dustypink wrote:

Then it's none of your business.
It doesn't mean that she's not a good mother & it definitely doesn't mean that she's not a good morah.

To me potching is so bad that it completely disqualifies you from any sort of chinuch role.

amother

Bluebell

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:54 pm

I think it's none of your business what she does in her own home!
You're expecting too much from your kid's rebbeim and moros if you want to agree with them on ALL chinuch issues!

Eta: you're relying on 2 kids shmoozing with each other. 2nd or 3rd hand information...
You have no idea what kind of patch she gives and which circumstances it was.

amother

DarkOrange

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:54 pm

Potching could mean many things. We potch but it's pretty much a tap on the hand.

amother

Dustypink

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:55 pm

amother OP wrote:

To me potching is so bad that it completely disqualifies you from any sort of chinuch role.

Then you should be getting over that.
One can be an excellent mechanech, even if they may potch at home. The torah allows parents to potch their kids & there are those that know how to do so with love. Many of our respected gedolim, potched their kids, and many have said that they wouldn't grow up to be what they are, had they not been potched as children. By their rabbaim & parents.

amother

Geranium

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:56 pm

so homeschool your kids.
you'll never know which teachers do and don't potch their kids.

amother

Salmon

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:56 pm

, the child could have exaggerated. Or maybe the child did something dangerous. I have two kids who if you ask them to repeat a scene that happened at home it’ll sound as if they live in different households.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:56 pm

amother Bluebell wrote:

I think it's none of your business what she does in her own home!
You're expecting too much from your kid's rebbeim and moros if you want to agree with them on ALL chinuch issues!

I won’t agree with them on all things but potching is so primitive and so wrong. Don’t we know better about potching? There has been such a strong push about education about how harmful it is.
Potching is a dealbreaker IHO.

smss

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:57 pm

OP I would also be really disturbed by this.
The potching may not come in to the classroom but the punitive mindset and lack of awareness of proper chinuch probably do Sad

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:57 pm

amother DarkOrange wrote:

Potching could mean many things. We potch but it's pretty much a tap on the hand.

That’s wrong as well. The word potch shouldn’t be a threat in a house.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:58 pm

smss wrote:

OP I would also be really disturbed by this.
The potching may not come in to the classroom but the punitive mindset and lack of awareness of proper chinuch probably do Sad

Thank you.
Yes, it’s indicative of so much.

amother

Dustypink

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:58 pm

amother OP wrote:

I disagree with this. Potching isn't automatically bad.
Other things would be a deal breaker before potching....

amother

Dustypink

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:59 pm

smss wrote:

OP I would also be really disturbed by this.
The potching may not come in to the classroom but the punitive mindset and lack of awareness of proper chinuch probably do Sad

It's not necessarily a punitive mindset and not proper chinuch.

amother

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 9:59 pm

amother Dustypink wrote:

In this generation if you’re potching,
you’re harming your kids.

It’s kind of basic knowledge nowadays.

If you are doing that you should go for a parenting course and resign from your teacher’s role asap.

amother

DarkOrange

Sat, Nov 18 2023, 10:00 pm

amother OP wrote:

That’s wrong as well. The word potch shouldn’t be a threat in a house.

Why? Because nowadays there's a lot of discussion against hitting and it's considered abusive, so the word potch is illegal? If we use a different word, then it'll be okay?