Do you go to your childs bris?

amother

Gold

Tue, Jul 11 2023, 3:37 pm

amother DarkYellow wrote:

I reported this post. Your nastiness and crudeness were uncalled-for. The obligation is the husband's, not the baby's, true, but the bris is the ceremony that officially welcomes the child into the Jewish people. A mother should be proud to be present. Furthermore, it's the first mitzvah in which the baby is a PARTICIPANT. Why shouldn't a mother want to be there? Do you feel a mother shouldn't be present at her baby's pidyon, either?

Thank you, I appreciate it.

I wasn't trying to say you must be there, and I know that it isn't the "baby's mitzvah".
To me it was just a very nice perspective and I was very happy I was there.
Just my personal feelings (which this thread is full of).

amother

Ivory

Tue, Jul 11 2023, 7:03 pm

keym wrote:

Yes.
I went to all my boys brissim.
My babies were all colicky. They cried when they were unswaddled.
When the mohel opened their diaper, put on alcohol, etc they cried. But I was always able to tell when the mila happened. There was a different pitch. A shrill hysteria of pain for a minute and then settled back into regular crying.
It was a similar cry by vaccines, heel pricks.
It was pain.
It was over very quickly. And it's a Mitzva and I'm going to do it.
But I 100% disagree that there's no pain, or that it's just the opening of the diaper.
My kids all cried differently during the actual mila

Of course I'm not saying babies don't feel pain during the mila. But that level of pain is for about half a minute, a minute at most, and any other crying during the bris is regular uncomfortable crying, that will happen very frequently throughout their entire first year of life. And even that minute of pain- they'll have that as well fairly often. At every shot, every time they miscalculate their movement and bonk their head into something, every time a toddler sibling accidentally hurts them- like, it happens. Are people who find the bris so traumatic that they can't get over it fine with all these other episodes of crying? Why is this to the level that they can't bear to attend the bris, but can manage to bear all those other events? Or are people falling apart every other time their baby shrieks in pain too?