Teen girls after school

amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 8:54 pm

What do your teen girls do every night if they don’t have a lot of schoolwork? Dealing with severe boredom.

Hashem_Yaazor

Yesterday at 8:56 pm

Phone, phone, phone
Music
Podcast/shiurim
Learn (over the phone) with set learning partners
Bake
Walk with friends
Go swimming if they can figure that out
Read

keym

Yesterday at 9:03 pm

Any craft hobbies
Fight with their siblings
Friends- either phone or get together
Babysit
Take a course

amother

Myrtle

Yesterday at 9:14 pm

My dd has tons of hw
And play practice

amother

Jasmine

Today at 3:27 am

I had a ton of schoolwork - but not from my High school.

I was taking AP classes and additional college clepping, so that I would be able to finish my Bachlors within the 10 months post seminary.

Most of my friends did that, or had additional hobbies ( like ballet, gymnastics, playing an instrument, art), took courses ( graphics, flower arrangements, sheitals, makeup, sewing) and a lot of just hanging out with friends/ talking on the phone?

Is she not super social?

amother

Cobalt

Today at 8:22 am

Chesed by neighbors
Read
Get together with friends
Practice typing
Bassline lessons
Help around house or with siblings
Bake
Shmooze on phone with camp friends

giftedmom

Today at 8:31 am

Eat, interact with siblings, phone, going over to friends/family, read, pass out on the couch

amother

Mintcream ↓

Today at 8:40 am

I find this to be more of an issue with girls who either have few or no friends or have friend(s) who are not phone people or not available in the evenings. Some girls have active family or block situations, babysit, etc. And then their friends who don't and don't have a ton of friends are bored.

There's also the "there's nothing in my closet" phenomenon. Unless she likes/prefers being on her own and/or is really into a specific activity, many girls will not be ok being "occupied" with a craft or whatever when what they want is to be busy with people, either because they genuinely want that or because it's what everyone else does.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Today at 8:45 am

She has a chesed job. She reads a lot. I don’t have a big family so it’s not a very happening house. She has friends they don’t live close and it’s not possible to get there and back and they aren’t major phone people. Can’t get to lessons either.

amother

↑ Mintcream ↓

Today at 8:55 am

amother OP wrote:

Got it. A few questions:

Do the friends live near each other and she lives further? How far is she? Are they getting together without her? Or busy with their own families or activities?

Why isn't it possible for her to get anywhere? And is it really not possible, or very very difficult?

How many days a week is chesed, and does she like it there? Does she like spending time with other families given the opportunity?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Today at 8:59 am

amother Mintcream wrote:

We had to buy away from the center of town. So yes most are close a short drive away from each other or even a short walk. We are a 20 minute drive and it’s just not possible to do. Once in a while I can turn the night upside down but it’s not happening often so it doesn’t solve the constant boredom. She goes once a week to help a neighbor and she really enjoys it. She’s still back at 6:30 and has many hours to kill.

amother

Electricblue

Today at 9:07 am

I’ll admit I’m old. but in the 90s when I was in high school there was so much home work I couldn’t breathe! is that not a thing anymore?

energybar

Today at 9:07 am

Have her put together a photo book for your family on snapfish ! win win!

amother

↑ OP

Today at 9:09 am

amother Electricblue wrote:

I’ll admit I’m old. but in the 90s when I was in high school there was so much home work I couldn’t breathe! is that not a thing anymore?

She is very smart and finishes it in class. It’s possible there is a lot of work but she’s very ahead in all subjects.

amother

Lightgreen

Today at 9:15 am

amother Electricblue wrote:

I’ll admit I’m old. but in the 90s when I was in high school there was so much home work I couldn’t breathe! is that not a thing anymore?

I teach high school and my principal is always telling us to load on the homework as per the parents’ request! The girls complain but they also complain when they’re bored…

amother

Lotus

Today at 9:18 am

let her teach herself a skill online
play an instrument
crocheting
a foreign language
how to create a website
coding

or take an online class

or she can be baking or cooking one night a week for you

I would look for another helping/babysitting job for another night or two

can she bring a friend home from school one night a wk or every other wk?

amother

↑ Mintcream

Today at 9:29 am

amother OP wrote:

Got it. First, if she's bright and likes spending time with families, can she get a homework helper job? She could go daily, and it becomes more a part of her and maybe she stays extra to help or becomes a default babysitter. She has a place she fits that she can get to easily.

Next- when you live in the center of town, you can use the resources. When you don't, sometimes you make them. OP, are you ok with having your not so happening house be more happening? If friends come home with her straight from school a couple days a week and stay the whole evening until someone can pick them up? Maybe dd helps them study, they hang out and have snacks and just be? I've seen girls from farther out still have their house be the place to be because it is warm and welcoming.

Also on the track of making the matzav- can dd start a class for younger girls? Something that your local families don't travel more into town for? Arts and crafts dance, exercise, drawing? You would likely need to give her some space in the house, or she could network for where it could be, but your house would be easier. Even if it meets once a week, she will be busy with it.

And like the homework helper thing (she could also start a steady tutoring business with multiple local kids), she would be productive and feel useful while enjoying. Which is enough to counter the left out feeling and build confidence and her own full life. It makes the empty spaces easier.

amother

Bergamot

Today at 9:30 am

Oh my girls are so busy: schoolwork, on the phone shmoozing, babysitting, Hanging out with neighbors in other high schools, helping with the younger kids: baths, homework, bedtime, making lunch for next day, baking, cleaning up

amother

Freesia

Today at 9:37 am

I know beteenhub has a number of courses like graphics, video editing and others that you can do on usb or online

amother

Heather

Today at 12:09 pm

Not much hw? How is this possible? Most hs girls I know have so much they barely have a life, and college is easy in comparison.