Ignoring communication

amother

OP ↓

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 8:46 am

This drives me crazy. I call out to my teens from another room. They either yell back what or ignore me because they can’t hear well. I then have to say if you can’t hear me come here. It keeps happening when I ask why they don’t come when they see I’m trying to communicate with them and they say they expect me to yell louder or come find them. They are usually well behaved and respectful ( for a teen ) so this one thing is so out of character. Was wondering if it’s a normal teen thing or they have some sort of block? We discussed it a few times that if they can’t hear me they need to come to where I am to see why I’m calling them. And not expect me to shriek on top of my lungs or walk to them. But then they act Iike it’s a foreign topic each time.

amother

Seashell ↓

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 9:44 am

I ask my kids not to call me from across the house, and I don't do it to them either. They have earpieces anyway so the only way to get their attention is to text them which interrupts their music.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 10:24 am

My kids don’t have phones. I have no other way to reach them other than call out to them or walk to them. And I can’t exactly just leave babies in the bath or things on the stove..

amother

NeonYellow ↓

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 10:39 am

amother OP wrote:

My kids don’t have phones. I have no other way to reach them other than call out to them or walk to them. And I can’t exactly just leave babies in the bath or things on the stove..

I understand. But if you don't want your children to yell at you from the other side of the house, then you shouldn't be yelling at them from the other side of the house.....

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 10:42 am

amother NeonYellow wrote:

I understand. But if you don't want your children to yell at you from the other side of the house, then you shouldn't be yelling at them from the other side of the house.....

I don’t really agree with that. They are relaxing most of the day I am busy with things I can’t walk away from. We are not equals. I don’t yell things to them I just call their names. I do think it’s ok for them to not expect their mother to walk through a 3 floor house finding them while they chill.

amother

Glitter

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 10:46 am

I don't yell things across the house. If I really can't go to someone I will call "Rivky please come here" and then wait til she comes to give over my message.

amother

↑ Seashell

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 10:57 am

amother OP wrote:

I'd ask them to stick around and be on call in case you need them.

amother

↑ NeonYellow

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 11:01 am

amother OP wrote:

If you have a large house, an intercome system is a must. Perhaps think about installing one.
You can also send a different child to fetch the child you want.

amother

↑ OP

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 11:02 am

amother Glitter wrote:

I don't yell things across the house. If I really can't go to someone I will call "Rivky please come here" and then wait til she comes to give over my message.

That's what I do. But sometimes they claim to just hear their name and not the come here part and they just wait for me to keep yelling or come find them.