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amother
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Post Sun, Aug 04 2024, 8:14 pm
I have such a hard time doing laundry. For some reason it feels like an insurmountable task. For my children it's different, because I know they need me. But for myself I leave things to the last possible second -- as in, I'm out of clean underwear, etc. Does anyone else have this problem? I don't understand why I feel this way.
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amother
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Post Sun, Aug 04 2024, 9:15 pm
Following. I am same way. I do teach my cleaning lady how to do laundry so that is really a help.
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amother
Springgreen


 

Post Sun, Aug 04 2024, 9:37 pm
amother OP wrote:
I have such a hard time doing laundry. For some reason it feels like an insurmountable task. For my children it's different, because I know they need me. But for myself I leave things to the last possible second -- as in, I'm out of clean underwear, etc. Does anyone else have this problem? I don't understand why I feel this way.

Some people subconsciously don't feel they can have what others have because of deep seated trauma.

Trauma distorts a person’s ability to maintain an inner sense of wellbeing.

Trauma can come from an experience that overwhelms your sense of being safe, or your sense of being okay with yourself. The experience of trauma, especially in childhood, makes learning good self-care practically impossible.

Trauma triggers an overwhelming sense of feeling unsafe, no matter the cause.

Trauma survivors often have trouble seeing and accepting their own needs for good self-care because

Their tolerance for pain and discomfort is high. (It was needed to be to survive their trauma.)

They don’t believe they deserve the good that life has to offer.

They have limited knowledge of how life can be different, or think that can be different only for other people.
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amother
Lemonchiffon


 

Post Sun, Aug 04 2024, 9:43 pm
Bh you are forced not to do laundry for 9 days Very Happy

I don't mind the sorting, retreating and washing. When it comes to folding, ironing and putting away, I have a really hard time! Bh I have help now that does it. When I'm between cleaning help, I play mind games with myself and won't allow myself to put up a new load without folding the ready one.
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zaq




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Aug 05 2024, 11:36 am
I don't understand why you don't throw some of your things in the machine with your kids' stuff. The machine won't mind a bit.
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amother
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Post Wed, Aug 07 2024, 1:00 pm
amother Springgreen wrote:
Some people subconsciously don't feel they can have what others have because of deep seated trauma.

Trauma distorts a person’s ability to maintain an inner sense of wellbeing.

Trauma can come from an experience that overwhelms your sense of being safe, or your sense of being okay with yourself. The experience of trauma, especially in childhood, makes learning good self-care practically impossible.

Trauma triggers an overwhelming sense of feeling unsafe, no matter the cause.

Trauma survivors often have trouble seeing and accepting their own needs for good self-care because

Their tolerance for pain and discomfort is high. (It needed to be to survive their trauma.)

They don’t believe they deserve the good that life has to offer.

They have limited knowledge of how life can be different, or think that can be different only for other people.

You are insightful and levelheaded. Would love to meet u
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amother
  Mauve


 

Post Wed, Aug 07 2024, 1:01 pm
amother Lemonchiffon wrote:
Bh you are forced not to do laundry for 9 days Very Happy

I don't mind the sorting, retreating and washing. When it comes to folding, ironing and putting away, I have a really hard time! Bh I have help now that does it. When I'm between cleaning help, I play mind games with myself and won't allow myself to put up a new load without folding the ready one.

There is a therapy modality that uses this exact coping mechanism.
You try different ways and end up going for the one that works fir you

Give yourself validation for coping beautifully.
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