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Which stage/age did you find most difficult?

0-6 months (Newborn)

57%

[ 12 ]

6-12 months (sitting and maybe just starting to get around)

[ 1 ]

12-18 months (crawling, walking, playing etc)

[ 2 ]

18-36 months (potty training, wanting independence etc.)

14%

[ 3 ]

3-5 years (preschool, needs entertainment, tantrums etc)

[ 2 ]

6-9 years (longer school days, needs help with homework etc)

[ 0 ]

10-12 years (preteen)

[ 1 ]

13-16 years (teenage but not driving or overly independent)

[ 0 ]

17-21 (full on teenager wishing for full independence)

[ 0 ]

Total Votes : 21

amother

OP ↓

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 7:15 am

I have a set of multiples who are 18 months old. I am finding this stage extremely hard. I am wondering which stage most people find the hardest. Obviously I know that each stage has a different hard but in your opinion which stage/age is the hardest? Mothers of singletons can also chime in, but if you are a mother of multiples and can explain why you chose the stage you did that would be best.

amother

DarkMagenta

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 7:30 am

I found the first nine months the hardest. First of all, for my twins it took until then to really get into a predictable synched schedule and for them to sleep through the night. While the toddler trouble stage is also hard, it more gratifying. At least for my twins, although the trouble and fighting was out of control, so was the cuteness. By the time they were 18 months they were such best friends, had their own language and were just beyond… As infants they were so so needy at all times, lots of crying… can’t comment on the teenage years as we’re not there yet!

English3

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 7:53 am

So far my twins are three. I found many stages difficult.

The chair stage: all the chairs needed to be put on the table for weeks otherwise they would walk on the tables.
The gate stage: every room needed a gate so that they dont escape.
The cereal stage; where they spilt out boxes of cereals on a daily base, pulling them to carpetted rooms.
The water stage; where they owned the sinks in the kitchen.
Under the table stage; nibbling stolen food or markers.
The wall stage; where every wall has been coloured
The escape stage; when the older kids left the front door open and they crawled out.
The hitting stage; where there was more bites on their body then bruises
There are many more.

They are the cutest pair and we love them to pieces.
I can say im more calmer now then when they are younger as im able to leave them alone for longer periods of time. Obviously when ever I use the bathroom I come out to trouble.
If im sitting and watching them they can play like angles.

amother

Tan

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 9:25 am

English3 wrote:

My 22 mo daughter is currently going the water stage, so relatable. She owns the bathroom sink.

amother

Midnight

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 9:28 am

Ok, I‘m sitting here with my 7 weeks old twins and feel like I‘m going crazy. And I do have help. Please somebody rescue me 🤪

amother

Almond

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 9:34 am

Just chiming in as a twin! Keep your camera handy... it's such nachas looking back.... Honestly I don't know how my mother did it. Take as much help as you can... Remeber every stage will pass.

amother

Junglegreen

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 10:12 am

20 month old twins.

I feel like from 12/14 months+ is hardest so far.

amother

Natural

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 10:50 am

amother OP wrote:

Physically, years 1-3 are hardest but I think your stage was the hardest for me. Emotionally, when they start going through puberty (I have twin girls) it makes those earlier years feel like a walk in the park.

Smile

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 10:56 am

amother Natural wrote:

When does this get easier!?! I feel like I am drowning. Every time I clean up one mess there is another mess/trouble being made. This is with help! I think back to the newborn stage (which at the time I thought was hard) and think how much easier it was.

amother

Oxfordblue

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 11:03 am

I have twins and one child a year older
Infant stage they were premies
Taking all three kids out at once
Taking my twins out in infant seats one at a time

amother

Ruby

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 11:48 am

It really depends on your overall situation, such as what kind and how much help you get from dh and others, whether or not you're employed outside the home, your age and health, if you have other kids...

Once they were about three it wasn't all that different from having two kids a year apart. One thing that was good was they always had a playmate so I didn't have to entertain them all the time.

amother

Blush

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 12:07 pm

My babies are 18 months. While I’m not as tired as I was last year ( nursing and no nurse, I wish I could afford, it well spend money), I m busy with them the whole day. Feeding, diapers, going out , sometimes they yell till they go out. They attack each other sometimes.
I think definitely the hardest stage was the nb as I didn’t have help. And I have a whole family to care for BH
My first set of twins was easier as my family was smaller at that point.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 8:37 pm

amother Blush wrote:

Yeah, I think you are right. If I didn't have my older kids in the picture it would definitely make things easier. I put up gates/fences, the bigger ones forget to close them. The babies get into the bigger kids things and then I get into 'trouble'. I still have to cook, clean, go to appointments for the older ones.

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Jul 31 2024, 8:38 pm

amother Oxfordblue wrote:

I have twins and one child a year older
Infant stage they were premies
Taking all three kids out at once
Taking my twins out in infant seats one at a time

Mine were preemies as well so that adds a lot of extra appointments, therapies etc. but I kind of thought that by 18+ months, walking etc things would start to get easier but no. It's only gotten harder and harder.

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