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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:21 pm
If both yours and DHs fathers did it, there are no grandfathers and you don’t have a rav or similar to give to
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:22 pm
Either of your fathers again.
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amother
Wine


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:24 pm
You have no one in your life that you go to for a shaila or for advice? Even an older brother or brother in law?
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:24 pm
amother Silver wrote:
Either of your fathers again.


AFAIK they are not supposed to do it more than once
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amother
Crimson


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:25 pm
What about a brother/bil/uncle?
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:27 pm
amother Wine wrote:
You have no one in your life that you go to for a shaila or for advice? Even an older brother or brother in law?


I do but he won’t be attending

Brothers would be tricky between mine and DHs and I feel the ones not asked would be insulted
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mfb




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:30 pm
Yours or dh uncles?
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amother
Razzmatazz


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:30 pm
My husband just did it for our boy number 4.
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BH Yom Yom




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:33 pm
We had two different rabbanim do it (one for each boy so far)
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simcha12plus




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:34 pm
Family friend who you respect and love
Rabbi of your shul
Rabbi of a different shul
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mushkamothers




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:43 pm
Your dh!! Really he's supposed to do it but as a sign of kavod he gives it to the fathers. Now he can take a turn!
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 8:45 pm
Same question. Bh almost done with iyh a boy. Will be my third boy. Both mine and dh father already did it. I have a grandfather but not sure he can hold baby for so long for bris. Otherwise maybe an uncle.or something.
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:25 pm
amother Bone wrote:
Same question. Bh almost done with iyh a boy. Will be my third boy. Both mine and dh father already did it. I have a grandfather but not sure he can hold baby for so long for bris. Otherwise maybe an uncle.or something.


We have had a very old grandfather doing it, it's a beautiful thing if he's still around. He will be helped by someone near him.
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:27 pm
amother OP wrote:
AFAIK they are not supposed to do it more than once


???? More than once in a lifetime???
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amother
Lotus


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:30 pm
Your husband takes it.
It's a huge bracha!
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amother
Navyblue


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:38 pm
amother Slategray wrote:
???? More than once in a lifetime???

Once per family.
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amother
Smokey


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:38 pm
amother Slategray wrote:
???? More than once in a lifetime???

As far as I understand not more than once in the same family. Besides for a Rav who can have the kavod multiple times in the same family. I know a family who has knh many many boys. The grandfathers , uncles , has one time each. The Rav had multiple times . It’s become a standing joke.
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amother
Babyblue


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 9:49 pm
amother Navyblue wrote:
Once per family.


If a person was not aware of it, it can happen, that someone does it twice in a family, but it isn’t supposed to be that way.

Any male whom you respect and are close to in some way can do so, or your husband (as mentioned), can do it .

Maybe ask the mohel for a suggestion?
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amother
Tiffanyblue


 

Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:09 pm
If your FIL was meyushav last time and father was me’umad you might be able to swap this time. Ask a rav.
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amother
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Post Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:13 pm
Your husband
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