If your married over 10 years

jewishmom5 ↓

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 9:43 am

And you got jewlery as a kallah, do you still wear them? If you don't wear it anymore, do you still have them and plan on keeping it forever or did you sell them or see yourself selling them at any point?

Chayalle

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 9:52 am

I love my ring and wear them on a daily basis.
I haven't worn my pearls in ages.
I never liked my Kallah bracelet. After my MIL AH passed away I traded it in for earrings. Some time later, one earring got lost.
That's the extent of my Kallah jewelry.

baked ziti

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 9:55 am

I sold some of the really dated pieces, like my watch and pin. Obviously you don't get back the full amount but I was making a simcha and wanted something up to date. The only thing I wouldn't change is my diamond ring setting out of sentiment.

pinkpeonies

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 9:56 am

I wear my engagement ring daily. My wedding band has long since been upgraded to a half eternity
I have a tennis bracelet that I wear instead of my kallah bracelet.
I rarely wear my pearls, but I have something in mind that I want to do with them
I still wear my gold watch which I love!

AlwaysGrateful

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 10:11 am

I got a ring and a bracelet.

My ring doesn't fit anymore, and I found it was always scratching my babies so I was sort of relieved when it stopped fitting, years ago. I don't wear it and dh doesn't mind. But one day when I"m past this stage of life, I plan to resize it and start wearing it again.

My bracelet, not really. I did wear it for a good few years afterwards. But not now.

And yes, if the premise of this thread is that kallah jewelry is overrated, I agree. I think it is. I wish that there could be some sort of agreement betweeen a kallah and her MIL that there is no need to waste money on jewelry, that if she wants to give half of the amount of the jewelry towards living expenses (staying in kollel for a little longer, allowing her to take a longer maternity leave, work fewer hours once the kids come, things like that), those would be much better gifts. But some young women are only thinking short term, and the ones that would think long term would be nervous about sounding rude to their MIL.

All well.

yo'ma

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 10:23 am

Married over 20 years bh. Got a bracelet, it broke a long time ago. Never wore any of my rings, but I know where they are. Got a gold necklace that was ripped off my neck some years back.

↑ jewishmom5

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 10:32 am

So I got 4 pieces of jewelry as a kallah. My ring and bracelet I still wear and don't have any intention of getting rid of it. My earings and necklace are extremely outdated and I haven't worn them in years. My dh just got me a new updated pair of earrings which I'm bh super grateful for but money doesn't come easy to us and we took out from our savings to pay for it. I really want to sell my old earings to be able to pay more easily for the new ones. I don't have sentimental feelings towards it and I don't plan on wearing them again. My dh is very adamant about not selling them and keeping them but I can't see the reasoning behind it. I'm not the sentimental type of person and they dont mean much to me anymore at this point.
I guess I'm just curious what other people's take is on this..

rdmom

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 10:59 am

Married almost 24 years.
I have to count my blessings. I still wear all of my jewelry. The watch I stopped wearing cuz I need to replace the battery and haven’t gotten around to it. And the pin, what can I say. I’m not a pin person. Otherwise. I love the necklace. The bracelet. And the ring I got. The earrings are a bit outdated. But I still wear them sometimes.

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 11:08 am

Married over 15 years BH
Wear my rings every day
Thankfully the necklace and bracelet set my mil chose are simple, classy and timeless. I wear the necklace often (especially if I'm going to see my mil), the bracelet clasp needs fixing , which I'll get done one day.
Watch long broke (it wasn't particularly valuable)
If we ever really needed the money I would sell the diamond from my engagement ring and switch it for cz.

Dev80

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 11:34 am

Wear my rings daily when my fingers aren't swollen.
My necklace (diamonds - bc I knew I wouldn't be into pearls) is still very much my taste and wear it when I'm in the mood for a necklace.
Bracelet has always been too big on me but we recently talked about resizing it. For now it sits in a box bc it just looks strange bc of the size.

GLUE

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 11:42 am

Ring- stopped fitting years ago, have it in my dresser

Watch- replaced the battery a few times after it died, some years ago something broke in the watch and I stopped wearing it, then it got lost. My MIL could have saved money and brought me one from Wal-mart because that is what I wear now.

Necklace- Sitting in my dresser, sometimes I wear it for a Simcha. My DD is always tiring to get me to let her wear it, sometimes I let.

Is Kallah Jewelry overrated?
It depends on the person, I would not have cared if I got cheaper jewelry, though I know of people who would have felt really bad.

HonesttoGod

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 11:43 am

Married quite a bit more than 10, less than 20 still.

Wear my diamond ring. Not the wedding band (upgraded to an eternity band at 10 years)
Wear my pearls and my diamond bracelet depending on the outfit for simchas/shabbs/yt.

Don’t wear my diamond watch. Never liked it. I think I wore it at the wedding at that was it. I should really sell it.

streak

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 11:58 am

No. Buy my jewelry was really really nebby. The bracelet tore the next day. I got it fixed for the chasunah and it tore again a few days later. Got one other piece that was more appropriate for a 12 yr old. Bh I could care less about fancy jewlery.

zaq

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 12:18 pm

In my circles there is no such thing as mandatory kallah jewelry, though a diamond engagement ring is pretty standard. My ring was not necessarily the precise style I would have chosen, but it's beautiful even so, and I love it because it's what my dh gave me when he proposed. If I were to have the stone reset in a different setting, or replace it with a larger stone or one in a different shape or what have you, it would no longer be the ring my dh gave me. It would be essentially telling dh "The ring you gave me is something I value as a piece of expensive jewelry, not as a symbol of your love." I would have been fine with a ring of far lesser monetary value, because to me it wasn't about the value of the ring. It was about what it symbolized.

Unless you're in such bad financial straits that you need to sell your jewelry, save it for your dd or future ddil or dgd. Of course, if you don't give a hang about the feelings of the people who gave it to you, sure, go sell it and get yourself something else.

silverlining3

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 1:06 pm

Aside from my pin, well, I never liked pins, I love every single piece of jewelry I got.

Bracelet-tennis, still wear.

Ring, still wear.

Earrings, I lost 1 so wore whatever other I had home and at one point bought fake. Didn't last for long and replaced it with lab grown, which my dh and I chose together. Love it.

Pearls, until diamond necklaces weren't in I wore it. I have since bought a fake diamond necklace to which I get lots of compliments-feels good lol.

Pin, well no, I stopped wearing it not too many years after marriage.

The 1 earring and pin are nicely sitting in a drawer. Maybe 1 day ill change it in for something.

Ema of 5

Thu, Aug 03 2023, 1:08 pm

jewishmom5 wrote:

My watch got stolen and my bracelet got lost. I still wear my engagement ring but my wedding ring is too small. My in laws gave me earrings the week before the wedding, I wear those sometimes on shabbos or to a Simcha. My husband gave me a necklace in the yichud room, I wear that the same as my earrings. (They match actually)