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yo'ma ↓

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 5:46 am

This morning, once again, I told my 3 1/2 yr old that it's time for me to get him dressed for school. He said no, as usual. Everytime I tell him that it's time to get dressed he says no, usually b/c he's too busy doing something else. Well, this morning I said, you don't want to get dressed, fine, go to school in your pj's, I'm not getting you dressed. Well, I couldn't exactly send him in his shorts and pj shirt because it was a little too chilly (I might've if it wasn't chilly). I went to put on his socks, pants, and shoes and then he wanted me to change his shirt. I didn't. My husband was home and he did, but he was wearing his shorts for underwear (like boxers, who cares?). Let's see what happens tomorrow.
My mother told me about a neighbor who had k"h a large family and almost every morning before going to school, they search everywhere for their shoes. One morning, their mother said, no more, take whatever you could find. boots in the summer or slippers or who cares, just go. I think they never misplaced their shoes again.
Have any of you ever sent their kid to school dressed in the not appropiate attire because you were fed up?

greenfire

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 5:52 am

sounds like in the end he has clothes ... but as a little tyke - you take charge not him - and isn't he too young to really care ...

↑ yo'ma

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 6:00 am

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sounds like in the end he has clothes ... but as a little tyke - you take charge not him - and isn't he too young to really care ...

yes, he had clothing in the end b/c my husband was home, but if he wasn't, he wouldn't.

I was just tired of having to fight with him.

He did care, that's why he went to my husband to change his shirt.

MahPitom

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 6:06 am

I’m glad you were able to pull it off. My kid would simply plant himself in the doorway and not budge. I once threatened to send my kid to school with a diaper because she was deliberately number towing herself about a minute before she came home (for attention) and in the end I could not pull it off. Dh is also a very huge softy and he would never allow me to pull these antics.

Hadassa Avra

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 9:39 am

My kids have always been dressed. Their hair has not always been brushed. Curly hair -> tatty hair. She doesn't care & I can't run after her (or him prior to upsharin) every morning with a brush & squirt bottle. Rolling Eyes

Zus

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 9:51 am

It hasn't come to that yet, but I often threaten to take them to school naked/in pajamas/whatever the case may be. I can see myself do it though.

su7kids

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 10:09 am

I did it. At least once with each kid. Never happened again. And no, they don't learn from each other.

I also once made my son eat breakfast in school. He never left without breakfast again.

I did take their clothes to school and handed them to the teacher and said, "when he's ready, he can get dressed".

Its awful and cruel, when you think about it, but heavens, its waaaaay better than that constant bickering at home.

My one, the one who ate breakfast in school, also used to read in the morning and FORGET to get dressed. He'd get undressed, and then forget to get dressed!!! So cute! (he's married now) -- I believe he gets dressed daily now before going out of the house.

mimivan ↓

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 10:19 am

su7kids wrote:

I haven 't done it yet, but I don't think it is so awful and cruel...at least not as bad as getting in a yelling match (which I have)...first thing in the morning...I discussed this with a child psychologist friend who said better to send them in PJs than to have a fight..

I have decided no more morning fights...I have made peace with the fact that I may some day send my child to school in his PJs...mornings are a lot more peaceful...he is getting on that bus whatever condition he is in...and we will survive...I hate morning stress and still have some trauma from the fights I had with my mother in the morning...I am willing to let some things go to avoid a power struggle at this time. Yet I feel I am very firm about the minimum stuff...

As for breakfast, sometimes he gets some dry cereal in a bag and a banana to eat on the way. I don't see this as a punishment, but as a consequence (and sometimes it isn't his fault. embarrassed

) but b'h most of the time he gets a normal breakfast at home..

amother ↓

Thu, Apr 03 2008, 10:39 am

oh this sounds so familiar... we have had MAJOR issues with our dd and a family therapist recommended sending her to gan with her clothes in a bag and her nightclothes still on if she refuses to get dressed. We tried this and if I remember correctly, by the time we got downstairs and almost out the door, she decided on her own to put the clothes on before she left. All it took that time was the threat. I do remember that in the wintertime, she refused to put on underwear and so she wore her pajama bottoms under her skirt even though they were longer and very noticably pjs and not just sweatpants. More important than caring what other parents or teachers might think of how you dress your child or how you can't control her, is that she understands that staying home for nothing is not happening and she has to go whether or not she gets dressed properly. It is a stage many go through and the child wants to be in control. It is VERY hard to implement this no nonsense attitude with a child that refuses to cooperate (my dh had to carry her to the car kicking and screaming for all the neighbors to hear.) Well, my child is almost 7 and that is much worse than a younger kid. More embarrassing for us. B"H most days are fine and everyone has mornings they just can't deal with. Just know you are not alone! I was going to post this under my name but I think it is lashon hara for whoever my know us, but believe me, it is true!

↑ amother

Sat, Apr 05 2008, 12:51 pm

when dh used to take them to school, sometimes they got taken into the car in pj's and I handed dh their bag of clothes. by the time they needed to get out to school, they were dressed. (amazing, no?)

zigi

Sat, Apr 05 2008, 7:09 pm

I wonder if it would work with ds it takes forever to get out of the house because he wants to play or puts everything on really slowly.... Twisted Evil

. sometimes I give them granola bars on the way out of the house if there wasn't any time in the morning.

morahaviva

Sat, Apr 05 2008, 10:42 pm

I had a parent who would drop off her kid in pjs hand me a bag with clothes and a toothbrush and say, "you dont mind, do you?" - YEAH I MINDED!!!
I have dressed my daughter in the car when I couldnt get her up and washed her up in the school bathroom (she was in nursery but her older sibs had to be on time) but I would NEVER expect a teacher to do that for her - they have enuf to do!!!

justanothermother

Sat, Apr 05 2008, 11:06 pm

amother wrote:

While wearing seatbelts?

Imaonwheels ↓

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 2:53 am

I have sent school age children on the bus with shoes and socks in hand. Yeah, it cuts the wasted time. I don't even think its cruel.

Once I had a 3 year old refuse to go. I turned him upside down by his ankles and carried him 3 blocks with kids laughing and scornful looks from other mothers. I handed him like this to the melamed, who took him inside among the other kids upside down. That also did the trick.

Pizza

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 3:02 am

Yes, it is more common than any of us had ever guessed!

I did this once, to dd in grade school - 2 or 3 grade. There were so many mornings when carpool came and had to wait for her to jump into her clothes, b/c she spent half the morning futzsing around. I finally dragged her to the door, kicking and screaming (her, not me) in her PJ's. I let her run upstairs and jump into her clothes... but it was the last time, since she saw I was serious and she was mortified. (I did run out and ask carpool to wait and extra 2 minutes, BH the driver was very understanding) She was always ready from then on, and still remembers it (17 y.o. now!)

happymom

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 4:50 am

how about a motivational chart? like something if he gets dressed before the timer rings.. or a few stickers means a great prize etc and then not saying anything about it and its his choice. I find those things really help motivate kids to decide on thier own to make the right choices.

manhattanmom

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 7:54 pm

This reply is to all the people who are saying that their kids are late, etc. because it takes WAY too long for them to dress themselves in the morning:

Why can't you dress a preschooler? You're bigger--without physically hurting them, you can dress them in the morning--let them scream for 45 seconds.
I'm pretty sure that when your child is 9 years old he/she will NOT want to be dressed by a parent.

You are being rude to the teacher when you send a kid to school in pajamas with clothing in a bag.

louche

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 10:04 pm

I see nothing wrong with sending a kid to school in pj's if he's being a p'chech about getting dressed day after day. what's the worst that can happen? the others will make fun of him and he'll never do that again. or the others will be jealous and run home saying Yossi's mommy lets him come to school in pj's, why can't I? (not your problem!)

I see plenty wrong with expecting the teacher to dress him.

↑ Imaonwheels

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 11:16 pm

I never had trouble getting a preschooler dressed. I will not dress a child who easily dresses himself. I do not let things like that get off the ground. I had dressing problems more in elementary when they are trying to miss the bus. That one also will never fly by me. I on rare occasions had kids who were dressed but not willing to leave and go to gan.

↑ mimivan

Sun, Apr 06 2008, 11:19 pm

Imaonwheels wrote:

What did you do when they would delay?

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