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Mitzvahmom ↓

Tue, May 16 2006, 10:44 am

For me it was two things..
A. not being able to answer the phone with my mother calls, dafka she calls when she knows she's not supposed to. But she's my mom

B. not being able to eat out with family and friends anymore unless at a kosher restaurant (let's face it not many great ones vail every where)

JEWISHMAMA

Wed, May 17 2006, 1:19 am

For me it was also no being able to eat whatever I wanted whereever. Personally I miss the seafood.

Also tznius is a big deal for me.

We just have to keep on treking and striving forward.

BTW my mom also calls when she shouldn´t but she usually apologizes on the answering machine.

Chani

Wed, May 17 2006, 9:47 am

oh wow, definitely the restaurant thing. I travel some for work, and it definitely is a challenge eating tuna for days on end...

chen

Wed, May 17 2006, 10:16 am

chani, have you no imagination? there's a whole world of gustatory delights out there: peanut butter, sardines, hard cheese, nuts, dry cereal... Rolling Eyes

don't you love it when nonkosher coworkers extol the area you're going to ".. it has a million restaurants, and the hotel has a free nitely buffet and a luau on wednesdays!"

seriously, have you tried any of the self-heating ready-to-eat meals by companies like My Own Meals and LaBriute? ( I myself haven't had My Own Meals, and I was not impressed with the 2 varieties of LaBriute that I tried, but if you're really dying for something hot...I know people who think laBriute is the best thing since the pop-up toaster.)

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avigayil

Wed, May 17 2006, 10:16 am

Eating is a big challenge. Now that we have a family, B'H", things get more complicated when my son cannot understand why he cannot have some things at his grandparents and why we always bring food there when other people do not.

Flowerchild

Wed, May 17 2006, 11:07 am

actually I had no problem giving up anything, and I dont miss anything, the hardest thing was keeping shabbat, not driving, going shopping etc. but like food and clothing I dont miss, I am happy keeping kosher in fact I like it much more and clothing I find more prettier and nicer in the frum world. I am quite happy that I chose this life style

batya_d

Wed, May 17 2006, 11:22 am

1) Being able to pick up quick and cheap food on the run: a slice of pizza, a bagel, etc. without searching for a kosher place.

2) Going to restaurants with nice atmosphere for a reasonably priced meal.

Hmm, I guess a lot of my taivos focus on food!!

DH and I are headed out of town today to my brother's college graduation, and these graduations are always centered around family meals at restaurants (at mine, when I wasn't frum yet, we had to make our reservations months in advance if we wanted to go to the hot places). We'll be subsisting on PB&J for a day or so. B"H my brother is a vegan, so he understands what it's like to have eating restrictions that make for awkward social situations.

chocolate moose

Wed, May 17 2006, 11:42 am

I miss a quality education for my kids, for free. With driver's ed and the variety of after schol activities.

besimcha

Wed, May 17 2006, 12:36 pm

Honestly, the hardest thing for me to give up was male attention, flirting and all this kind of stuff. I don't miss it bichlal now, B"H, but it was definitely very hard to get used to.

nicole81

Wed, May 17 2006, 1:48 pm

it really wasn't hard for me to give up anything. but the hardest part is having family who constantly argue with you over your choices and try to tell you things are kosher when they're not, just to make things easier for them.

actually, lemme change my answer. the hardest thing to give up were a lot of my close friends. we slowly drifted away and lost touch because our lifestyles were so different. it's sad and I miss them a lot of the time, but our friendships could never work.

chabadnick

Wed, May 17 2006, 5:19 pm

Shabbos was easy but Kashrus was harder- the cholov yisrael aspect. You can get a chocolate anywhere- cereal etc, even ice cream that is dairy any where and when you are cholov yisrael its harder. I also wass told not to hug/kiss uncles which is hard b.c it gets uncomfortable. also I had lots of guy friends. The Jewish music I love but sometimes I long to dance...does anyone else hate going to weddings and not being able to dance? sitting watching everyone else.

amother

Wed, May 17 2006, 5:24 pm

Entemann's chocolate chip cookies, since I became Cholov Yisroel, right before my wedding.

Crayon210 ↓

Wed, May 17 2006, 5:24 pm

Why can't you dance at a wedding?

↑ Mitzvahmom

Wed, May 17 2006, 5:29 pm

That is going to be difficult on my family also..

They did not make it to my first wedding... G-d willing when I find the right person they will make it to that one..

I can just imagine them taking over the lobby just so they can dance together! LOL

zkalan

Wed, May 17 2006, 5:38 pm

amother wrote:

Entemann's chocolate chip cookies.

Those are GOOD! We are not Cholov Isroel yet, so I still eat them.
I would say wearing pants, cause they are comfortable, and like someone else said hugging male friends.

sarahd

Thu, May 18 2006, 3:50 am

Crayon210 wrote:

Why can't you dance at a wedding?

Probably because there's mixed dancing.

↑ Crayon210

Thu, May 18 2006, 9:27 am

Oh, thanks for the clarification.

southernbubby ↓

Mon, May 22 2006, 8:22 pm

I agree with SaraG.

↑ southernbubby

Mon, May 22 2006, 8:22 pm

I agree with SaraG.

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