If it’s a choice that works for both of you, that’s great. I think every couple should decide together what will work for them. Doesn’t have to be the same for everyone.
Well not all of us have the choice and do fall apart. Otherwise our kids have no food to eat.
And our home isn't spotless or anywhere near it. Dinners and Shabbos is very simple. My kids don't have most up to date wardrobe.
But we are fed, clean, clothed, housed, loved and in school.
Would your kids have no food to eat or would they not be in school? Because that's a lot more expensive than food
I don't work full time because when I did my husband didn't take equal responsibility for the household/childcare. I couldn't be a nice person doing it all. So I stopped. He said in his family men weren't expected to do these things. So I said he could go to his family for money then since they created this set up. He had an attitude that I could figure it out because I'm the woman. I decided I believe in him and he can figure it out as the man.
And you know what?
He did.
And he's still not super helpful around the house. And I do work part time. But I refuse to work full time until he takes equal responsibility and mental load. It's been 5 years and I have no regrets
