Is it my money? | Imamother

amother

Cerise

Sun, Nov 10 2024, 2:29 pm

amother OP wrote:

I just got my first job after being married for quite some time.
My question is the money I receive from my job, is it all mine or is it considered my husband's?

Considered by who? By Halacha? By secular law? By your community? By your husband?

What do you mean by this question, and how is it related to your day-to-day life?

amother

↑ Pear

Sun, Nov 10 2024, 11:07 pm

amother Butterscotch wrote:

Yes he does
And he makes approximately 4,500 a week, while I am left to shoulder all the rest!

I’m so sorry 😞

Before you talk to a rav, please read up on financial and religious abuse. If either of those sound familiar, DON’T go to a rav together. If you do, your dh will twist his words to try to control you even more.

If you’re not dealing with abuse, ignore what I said and hopefully your rav will be able to help you both work through it.

amother

↑ Brass

Tue, Nov 12 2024, 12:02 am

amother Cerise wrote:

Considered by who? By Halacha? By secular law? By your community? By your husband?

What do you mean by this question, and how is it related to your day-to-day life?

I'm still thinking about this, can't understand the point of this thread