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Cheiny

Yesterday at 4:44 pm

amother OP wrote:

I think because it is so common to be out with family by me. There were so many other people there who I know were with siblings and mothers and daughters why ask us. I think that is where I am stuck on. Why did we stand out and not other people standing in close distance.

No didnt really strike a nerve. my older kids in their 30s and I were out and people thought we were siblings my husband looks much older than me and people think I am his daughter.

You didn’t stand out more than the others, the reason the woman commented to you rather than others in the restaurant was because you happened to be the one standing in front of her. Did you expect her to go over to everyone else in the restaurant and make the same comment? That’s very unreasonable.

I think you’re very sensitive about this and it did strike a nerve, and that’s why you’re blowing her comment out of proportion. I’m sure she meant no harm and no insult. If you’re 17 years older then you could in fact be your friend’s mother.

You really are reading too much into it and it’s time to let it go. If you still can’t, you might want to look into why it’s bothering you so much and what it triggered in you,

Last edited by Cheiny on Thu, Nov 21 2024, 11:25 pm; edited 1 time in total

Simple1

Yesterday at 4:57 pm

I understand why you were bothered. Although I’d write it off as foot in the mouth. It’s not a terrible comment but I wonder the age of the posters saying it’s no big deal. Or maybe some of us are more sensitive than others regarding our looks and age,

amother

DarkViolet

Yesterday at 5:32 pm

amother OP wrote:

I have a friend who is about 17 yrs my junior. She in her early 40s. We have been friends for many years.
We went out to eat the other day. We kind of look similar with same coloring and same sheitel style and color.
We live in town in which is very heavily populated with lots of families that have siblings and parents living close by so its very normal to see siblings and mothers out together.

So my friend and I went out to eat. We were waiting on line and a woman a bit older than me turned to us and asked if we were related which we said no we are friends. Instead of just stopping there she went on to say "oh I thought you were mother and daughter".
I am so not sure why in the first place she asked that because it so common by me to be out with a family member and then to go on with the comment she said.

So just want to put it out there to not say anything.
And no I dont look old. Have good skin but unfortunately thanks to hereditary and not getting much sleep over the years I have circles under my eyes.

first I thought you wrote 7 seven yrs apart....but 17 years apart? You could really almost be her mother! my SIL married at 18 and had a baby 9 months later....
maybe she thinks your friend is 20 and you are 38!!!
(I'm 38 and have an almost 18 yr old son!)