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  ShakleeMom  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 2:09 pm
Amother, I did go to the school today (it’s the third day) and my hands are tied! At the rate the school is growing, they are looking for faster ways to pay off their home equity loans, one more miserable kid won’t hurt their career and paycheck. How sad!
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Motek




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 2:55 pm
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I would keep her home until you find her a school where she's happy. I think it makes sense to keep children in a environment where they are happy and secure, and not to keep them where they're miserable.


Ah but GR, that's too obvious and wouldn't it be better for the child to see a psych and get therapy, hey, maybe medication would help (yes, sarcastic).
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MommyLuv




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 3:00 pm
I feel for you shaklee...but maybe this is just an age/stage issue.

My 3 1/2 year old is also at a very challenging stage right now and everything is a struggle. she had an hour-long tantrum this morning-over NOTHING!- which frazzled me almost to the point of rage.

If she seems otherwise happy AT school, I would not take her out.

Does she talk about school? Describe her day, her time there? What sort of feedback are you getting?
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  amother  


 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 3:43 pm
Shaklee, I am writing this in all kindness. How can it be that you sent your daughter to school without knowing EVERYTHING about the place, including what goes on in each class and most importantly, what goes on in the class where your daughter was placed. This sounds neglectful. Maybe you are a first time mom? So I will tell you that NO ONE is as good an advocate for a child as a responsible parent. You have to know everything about her and make sure she is in the right place (3 year olds belong with either 2,3 or 4 year olds, not 5 years olds). If I was that little girl and sent out into the big blue beyond without anyone checking it out for me first, I would act up too.
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HooRYou




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 3:55 pm
amother, Shakelee said at the beginning that her hands are tied. I don't know who she is or where she lives but maybe she doesn't have so many options of schools to send to, not all of us do. Yes, she has to be on top of the situation but it doesn't help her too much to make her feel bada bout it now.
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  ShakleeMom  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 4:10 pm
I don’t get upset because some amother is telling me I’m neglectful. In this community school are huge and they also have to do what lines their pockets fastest. It’s the sad and awful truth and I repeat, one more miserable child will not ruin their reputation, people are clamoring for slots. So yes, if they need to fill up a class, they will tell mothers ‘your daughter was hand picked, she’s special’ and so it goes. It’s always been this way and in many other schools too, most of the time, we turn a blind eye, or do not notice it at all because the kids just scoot by. In this case I think she simply went into a class without a single kid from last year so she doesn’t know a soul. As adaptable as she is, it’s a nightmare and it’s not fair. Putting her into another kindergarten (from the other 5) is not an option as I am not headstart. Putting her back in nursery is ridiculous. So I am davening that now they know the mother is watching them, and they will be conscious to bend over backwards and focus on helping my kid adapt!
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  Tamiri




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 4:37 pm
Is this a Jewish school?
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  greenfire




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 5:27 pm
wow - I must say a 3 year old does NOT need school ... a 5 year old probably would ... maybe she just needs more home time to adjust ... the way you even describe the school makes me shudder ... your hands are only tied if you continue to put your dd back in a wrong situation ... this could effect her schooling down the road as well ...
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  amother


 

Post Thu, Sep 11 2008, 6:30 pm
I just dont understand how you can send your daughter there for even one minute knowing the situation and even seeing it with your own eyes. I feel for your daughter. I hope you take her out like today!
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  ShakleeMom




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Sep 21 2008, 1:10 pm
I am happy to report that upon the advice of my dear cousin who is very close to me, I went down to the school multiple times instead of hanging on the phone. When they see your face, they know you’re on top of the case. Tomorrow iy”h I am invited to come down at ten and walk her into the new, more appropriate class. What a saga!

If I may add, it helps to look very nice when you go to school. I went the extra mile and I felt I was matzliach for my looks. Isn’t that sad.
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