Who do you make Sandek?

amother

Topaz

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:21 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

???? More than once in a lifetime???

A grandfather/ great grandfather can’t be sandek more then once? Is this brought down somewhere?

amother

Stone

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:22 pm

amother OP wrote:

I do but he won’t be attending

Brothers would be tricky between mine and DHs and I feel the ones not asked would be insulted

U start with the oldest.

rmbg

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:27 pm

amother Topaz wrote:

A grandfather/ great grandfather can’t be sandek more then once? Is this brought down somewhere?

No. More than once for the same family. Not for two siblings

amother

↑ Slategray

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:28 pm

rmbg wrote:

No. More than once for the same family. Not for two siblings

What would be the reason ?

amother

Glitter

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 11:05 pm

It doesn’t have to be your Rav. We asked a family members Rav after both grandfathers and our Rav had already been sandek for us and if that didn’t work out we were going to have someone ask a local Rosh Yeshiva who knows who we are but we aren’t close with.
Dh is also an option, was very common during Covid.