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What do you do when your sister-in-law has a baby?
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| Nothing |
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3% |
[ 8 ] |
| Call or at least text mazel tov |
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23% |
[ 59 ] |
| Send a gift |
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5% |
[ 14 ] |
| Send a meal (if you're local) |
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3% |
[ 8 ] |
| call/text AND a gift or meal |
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65% |
[ 166 ] |
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amother
DarkCyan
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 Yesterday at 11:45 am
I come from a very large family and so does my husband. I am not rich and not super close to all but absolutely text/call a Mazal tov right away depending on the individual. I also buy or chip in for a gift. I like to send food as well-either a meal or even cookies and/or a soup.
I just had a baby and was so touched w every call , gift and food delivery and it made me feel so supported. We all need this after a baby.
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amother
Amethyst
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Yesterday at 11:51 am
My husbands sisters usually send an obligatory text wishing me Mazel tov if anything. Some did, some didn’t. They’re not the type to do more unfortunately, they don’t really have much with me to the point that I wasn’t even greeted at a recent simcha even after I greeted them
I think the answers will depend on family dynamics..my in laws treat daughters in laws like outsiders so even the text would be considered a lot lol
My mother in law doesn’t even visit for MONTHS afterwards so I’m just thankful I have my own family involved bh
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amother
Razzmatazz
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Yesterday at 3:32 pm
I think it's interesting that sending a meal and a gift is listed and referred to as the same category.
To me that's two completely different things
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amother
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Yesterday at 6:30 pm
| amother DarkCyan wrote: | I come from a very large family and so does my husband. I am not rich and not super close to all but absolutely text/call a Mazal tov right away depending on the individual. I also buy or chip in for a gift. I like to send food as well-either a meal or even cookies and/or a soup.
I just had a baby and was so touched w every call , gift and food delivery and it made me feel so supported. We all need this after a baby. |
I feel same as you.
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amother
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Yesterday at 6:40 pm
| amother Razzmatazz wrote: | I think it's interesting that sending a meal and a gift is listed and referred to as the same category.
To me that's two completely different things |
Of course it's different things and different level of effort, investment in the relationship. For the sake of this poll however it served my purpose to see if sending something, anything, is such a special thing that should only be reserved for ppl we are close with. To me, immediate family should get something regardless of closeness. It's what you do for family, like you go to their simchos, you send something after a baby, no matter how you personally feel.
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Ema of 5
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Yesterday at 6:50 pm
| amother OP wrote: | What do you do? Does it matter to you if it's your brother's wife, your husband's sister, or your husband's brother's wife?
I voted what I do which is call and send a gift or a meal, depending on what I can do or what I think they'd appreciate more.
When I had my last baby, each of my sisters came over or called and two of them brought over food, and they all sent a gift. My SILs, otoh, some only sent a gift and when I called them to thank them, they said their mazel tovs. One called and didn't send anything. Three didn't call and didnt send anything, it was as if they didn't even know I had a baby, no acknowledgment at all. Just wondering how common it is... |
My only sister in law are on my husband’s side. Whenever someone has a baby, we all chip in together for a gift.
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