Super Anxious 3 year Old

amother

↑ Pear

Today at 3:56 pm

amother Ebony wrote:

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That is so weird. You should validate all feelings since they are all part of us. Anger and fear and sadness aswell. If you ignore them they won't go away ..it's simple minded to think that way. My father always said if a child falls one shouldn't ask if it hurt, one should ignore it so the child doesn't cry. So stupid.

Acknowlege the fear. You are scared that someone might come in? That would be scary. It's not possible because we locked the door, and mommy and daddy are here to protect you aswell. Do you want a night light on?

This way you have the acknowledgment, the facts and also the childs input. They are capable of deciding what will get them out of that place of fear.
My daughter used to be very anxious. She isn't anymore. Now she says: if someone would come on, daddy would beat them up with xyz. Also I have my light on so they wouldn't come in.

Ignoring fear or anger is never the way to go.

Anxiety is different from pain.
With pain, validation helps process it and move on from it.
With anxiety, validation feeds the beast.

amother

Babyblue

Today at 5:36 pm

Typically 3 year olds with anxiety is not a medical issue and more of an attachment issue. You can go to a social worker to learn how or help her through the anxiety which will help repair the attachment.

amother

↑ Anemone

Today at 5:40 pm

amother Ebony wrote:

All specialists say don’t validate anxiety. The more you validate the larger you make it grow. Rather break down the fear and show them it’s not scary or there are solutions. Saying oh poor you, it’s scary someone might break in… will most definitely create a bigger issue.