Always bored | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 3:24 pm

Ok I know this is going to sound very weird to so many of u but I'm literally always bored! I work 9-5 and have 2 children, ages 3 and 5 and I'm literally always bored! My kids are old enough to entertain themselves for the most part and I just find myself very bored in the evenings and especially on Fridays, long motzei shabbosim and Sundays. I don't have cleaning help but I do the cleaning/folding laundry/changing linen in half hour increments every night and I have a dishwasher. Laundry I only wash Sundays and I cook quick, easy suppers every night that don't take long to put up. I bathe the kids Sunday, Tuesday and Friday. I work from home Fridays so I cook shabbos food Friday morning. Grocery shopping I do during lunch break. Maybe I'm managing a little too well lol? Because I'm so bored every evening. I end up going to sleep very early which is good I guess but it's only cuz I'm bored out of my mind. Ppl always ask me how I manage to work full time with 2 kids. I feel like noone understands me! Doesn't help that I'm bored in work too and majorly understimulated.

amother

Grape ↓

Yesterday at 3:39 pm

I actually had the same thing as you. I was part time in school, full time working and had kids ages 3.5 and 5.
I wasn't bored, but managed incredibly well.
I found that after my 3rd baby and kids getting older (6+) is when it got much more challenging.

amother

Razzmatazz

Yesterday at 3:41 pm

I think its a personality.

Ideas:

Read books
Write a book
Exercise
Watch a good show
Listen to shiurim
Go to shiurim
Learn an instrument
Learn to sew or knit
Try new recipes
Listen to podcasts
Organize your closets
Bake and sell your baked goods
Learn a foreign language
Volunteer for an organization
Listen to music
Learn something with a chavrusa

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 3:42 pm

amother Grape wrote:

It's so validating to hear I'm not the only one.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 3:43 pm

amother Razzmatazz wrote:

Yes likely a personality. My coworkers get so excited when we have a legal holiday off and I just dread the boredom. Sundays at least there's laundry to do although it doesn't take up my whole day.

amother

↑ Grape ↓

Yesterday at 3:45 pm

amother OP wrote:

Yes likely a personality. My coworkers get so excited when we have a legal holiday off and I just dread the boredom. Sundays at least there's laundry to do although it doesn't take up my whole day.

Do you ever do anything fun with your kids?
Do anything fun in the evenings or weekends?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 3:48 pm

amother Grape wrote:

Do you ever do anything fun with your kids?
Do anything fun in the evenings or weekends?

No not really. My husband works until really really late and gets home after I'm asleep. But anyway where would I go if I have to find babysitting for my kids? I also have a very small family and rarely have any simchos.

amother

IndianRed ↓

Yesterday at 3:50 pm

I get you OP. Suggestions of how to fill my time don't help because I find most chores boring too. Seems like you're the type who needs more stimulating activities than others. Would you take another side job or class that you can do an hour each night?

amother

↑ IndianRed

Yesterday at 3:52 pm

amother OP wrote:

This can be a huge factor to your boredom. So you don't spend time with your DH all week?

amother

↑ Grape

Yesterday at 3:54 pm

amother OP wrote:

Sounds like you need to find friends. Why does your dh come home so late?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 3:55 pm

amother IndianRed wrote:

This can be a huge factor to your boredom. So you don't spend time with your DH all week?

Nope. We don't spend much time together at all. He's always working. He doesn't have a set job with set hours so he can work pretty much 24/7 and he does. Bh I am expecting my 3rd baby in March so this is hopefully all really temporary lol. We struggled with secondary infertility for a really long time so I'm happy nobody said something like "have more kids" because that would be very insensitive.
I remember that my last maternity leave I was extremely bored so hoping that doesn't happen again. A bit nervous already. But 3 kids is sure to be busier than 2 so we'll see.

jd1212

Yesterday at 3:58 pm

I have some free evenings myself (4 and 2yr olds). I’m outgoing and started planning community events and getting involved in shidduchim. set up times to speak to singles on the phone, etc. such a chesed esp for older ones and easy to do from home. And very rewarding!

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 4:00 pm

jd1212 wrote:

Yea once the kids go to sleep, what's there to do?? I clean for a half hour but it doesn't take up my whole evening.

amother

Bronze

Yesterday at 4:15 pm

Op, are you me?!?
And no, I'm not interested in reorganizing a closet (even if it needs tlc) and no I dont want to make another cake... But I am BORED
And hub goes out at night to learn, and I am BOOORED
And I take plenty of courses
And read enough
But love being busy.
The busier the day the happier I am
Add/adhd? Probably

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 4:54 pm

amother Bronze wrote:

I always wondered if I have ADD/ADHD. Never got formally checked out though. But I'm so happy there are ppl on here who can relate to me because irl ppl think I'm crazy.