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amother
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 Sat, Jan 04 2025, 9:35 pm
Im doing it all wrong. No set system. Depends on my energy and mood I'm frustrated and unpredictable. Somedays I focus only the positive and spend time with them and an the best mom and other days I'm so negative and I yell at the slightest... I wish I would have a plan and feel confident knowing what I should be doing so I can stay calm when kids misbehave...
Any book recommendations?
What's the best one?
Is there a specific approach or book for parenting a hf asd child?
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hkwl2
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Sat, Jan 04 2025, 9:39 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Im doing it all wrong. No set system. Depends on my energy and mood I'm frustrated and unpredictable. Somedays I focus only the positive and spend time with them and an the best mom and other days I'm so negative and I yell at the slightest... I wish I would have a plan and feel confident knowing what I should be doing so I can stay calm when kids misbehave...
Any book recommendations?
What's the best one?
Is there a specific approach or book for parenting a hf asd child? |
Sounds like you could use Good Inside by Dr. Becky. Her methods are applicable to a wide variety of kids, issues or otherwise, and minimal in the guilt department
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amother
Dustypink
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Sat, Jan 04 2025, 9:54 pm
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Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld
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amother
Mimosa
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Sun, Jan 05 2025, 12:01 am
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"Children: The Challenge"
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amother
Molasses
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:06 pm
How it talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. So practical!
Also any of Dan Siegels books
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amother
Vanilla
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:06 pm
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“Are your hands full” love her approach by Sarah Jarasolowitz
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keeplearning
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:18 pm
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I'm a big fan of How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk. I'm actually facilitating a workshop that they created. It will be starting on zoom soon. Feel free to private message me if you want more info.
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amother
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:30 pm
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I am also a huge fan of how to talk so kids will listen! It taught me so much about emotional awareness (along with Daniel Tiger lol). However. I have a kid who I suspect is a highly sensitive child and the how to talk so kids will listen strategies have been backfiring- when I validate and empathize with her challenging feelings, she gets angry and aggressive. Does anyone here have that experience and suggestions for another approach?
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amother
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:34 pm
| amother Bronze wrote: | | I am also a huge fan of how to talk so kids will listen! It taught me so much about emotional awareness (along with Daniel Tiger lol). However. I have a kid who I suspect is a highly sensitive child and the how to talk so kids will listen strategies have been backfiring- when I validate and empathize with her challenging feelings, she gets angry and aggressive. Does anyone here have that experience and suggestions for another approach? |
If I remember correctly, since it’s been a few years… Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke addresses this. I found this book extremely helpful overall.
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amother
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:41 pm
| amother Bronze wrote: | | I am also a huge fan of how to talk so kids will listen! It taught me so much about emotional awareness (along with Daniel Tiger lol). However. I have a kid who I suspect is a highly sensitive child and the how to talk so kids will listen strategies have been backfiring- when I validate and empathize with her challenging feelings, she gets angry and aggressive. Does anyone here have that experience and suggestions for another approach? |
Dr Becky has totally different strategies for “deeply feeling kids”.
You might want to check out her workshops
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amother
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Mon, Jan 06 2025, 11:41 pm
| hkwl2 wrote: | | Sounds like you could use Good Inside by Dr. Becky. Her methods are applicable to a wide variety of kids, issues or otherwise, and minimal in the guilt department |
I didn’t read the book but I highly recommend the workshops
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keeplearning
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Yesterday at 3:32 pm
| amother Bronze wrote: | | I am also a huge fan of how to talk so kids will listen! It taught me so much about emotional awareness (along with Daniel Tiger lol). However. I have a kid who I suspect is a highly sensitive child and the how to talk so kids will listen strategies have been backfiring- when I validate and empathize with her challenging feelings, she gets angry and aggressive. Does anyone here have that experience and suggestions for another approach? |
That's so funny. I learn so much from Mom tiger as well lol
I would recommend Dr Becky Kennedy's materials for deeply feelings kids as well as the book the Explosive Child
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thegiver
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Today at 2:52 am
Spare the child. There is no book like this one!!
I like Laura markham too
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amother
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Today at 4:13 am
| keeplearning wrote: | That's so funny. I learn so much from Mom tiger as well lol
I would recommend Dr Becky Kennedy's materials for deeply feelings kids as well as the book the Explosive Child |
I'll second the Explosive Child.
I learned great stuff from dr. Becky, especially about my own regulation, but her approach backfired for my very sensitive child. Her theory was good (talked about how dfk feel shame surounding their emotions), but the practical didn't work for me. I found it too hands on, and my child did not appreciate that.
(Mm. Actually, while her approach backfired terribly for one child, it worked really well for a different one). With all these methods you really have to look at your child and see what they need. No method is perfect, as each person is so different.
He needed space, doesn't like having his feelings names, instead I just repeat back his words. Co-regulating means sitting quietly, and feeling into what he might be feeling without taking it on, and without talking - unless he initiates, and without touching him!
If he needs validation, repeating his words/message back to him seems to work best - not naming feelings.
I like Daniel seigal books. Also currently liking the teacher momma on ig. There is a book a for sensitive children that I recently started reading. Didn't get far enough in to know if I recommend, but so far seems good. It's called the spirited child, by mary speedy kurcinka.
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amother
Gladiolus
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Today at 4:16 am
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'The complete guide to successful Jewish parenting' is excellent!! It's by Zamir Cohen
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hitherefriend
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Today at 5:11 am
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Are your hands full by dr yaroslawitz is amazing, very detailed hands on and practical
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