Sick kids and taking off

amother

OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:05 pm

It’s complicated for me to take off in general.
My kid tested positive for the flu on Friday (I don’t work Fridays) and was miserable all shabbos. Bh bh his fever broke this morning and he’s been much better today, still complaining of body aches and overall not fully back to himself but has not needed Tylenol or Motrin and has been fine.
General rule with flu/viruses is 24 hours no fever. I’m sure he’ll be way better tmrw after a good nights sleep and considering he’s already so much better today.
I feel so guilty to send him though because of course an extra day home would be good for him….
Ugh make me feel better…

giftedmom

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:07 pm

I’m a SAHM and as soon as my kids are feeling better they’re back at school/cheder. They go stir crazy at home after a few days.

amother

IndianRed ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:13 pm

You shouldn’t send him. Thats too soon for the flu. It’s unfair to your child, his classmates and his teacher.

amother

DarkPurple

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:18 pm

I totally get you. Ive been in the position of sending a kid who is not contagious but could probably use another day just to cuddle in bed to school.
Only working mothers can relate. And thise whose jobs are not so flexible.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:18 pm

amother IndianRed wrote:

You shouldn’t send him. Thats too soon for the flu. It’s unfair to your child, his classmates and his teacher.

Not everyone gets sick the same. Bh he’s doing a million times better and didn’t wake up with fever. Last dose of Tylenol/motrin was last night.
Considering about half the class was home sick on Friday, I don’t think he’s exposing anyone to anything new either even if he was still contagious, which he shouldn’t be, That’s where he got sick.
I feel bad because I know an extra day at home would be nice even if he’s basically better but it’s not practical for me to take off if my kid isn’t really sick anymore.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:18 pm

amother DarkPurple wrote:

Thank you ❤️

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:21 pm

mom! wrote:

Can you let him stay home for the morning and send him for the afternoon and only take off a half a day?

I wish, my job is either you come or someone covers for you (which gets complicated if you didn’t request off 6 weeks+ in advance)
You only take off last minute for emergencies.

amother

Gold

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:22 pm

amother IndianRed wrote:

You shouldn’t send him. Thats too soon for the flu. It’s unfair to your child, his classmates and his teacher.

I used to think like you and then realized thats how she got sick in the first place with a child with a bad attendance record plus she complained of missing to much school work.

First of all she exposed her friends and her bus the days before she had those symptoms. Also the whole class is also sick but parents have a hard time taking off so their is plenty other sick kids in school. The teacher would rather have the kid come and not be 100 percent then have to replace everything she just taught. So I send after the kid is able to function on medicine.

WhereIsMyPhone

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:23 pm

Can he come along with you for the day? My boss is extremely flexible with sick kids, but if it is a matter of possible contagion rather than the child being actually sick-sick, he’ll always say I prefer you bring your child along than just stay home.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:25 pm

WhereIsMyPhone wrote:

If I worked in an office, possibly. I don’t work in a kid friendly environment at all.

amother

Gladiolus

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:27 pm

I would see how the child is in the morning
can you make any arrangements for him to be home and you go to work?

amother

Crystal

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:28 pm

If he is fever free 24 hours not on meds it’s fine to send. I would give the kid the option to call you and have someone pick him up if he’s not handling the school day

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:30 pm

amother Gladiolus wrote:

I would see how the child is in the morning
can you make any arrangements for him to be home and you go to work?

I have a backup plan if it’s a snow day but that’s a HS relative who would be off. She’s not off otherwise. Kind of makes me hope schools are off tmrw…

amother

↑ IndianRed

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 6:52 pm

amother OP wrote:

But school takes so much energy to get through. It’s a long day full of structure and responsibilities. It’s just unfair to your son. Can your husband take off?

amother

↑ OP

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 7:28 pm

My husband took off Friday cuz I was sick too so he can’t take off again.
My son is little so it’s not like he’ll have many responsibilities of anything in school. As I started, I feel guilty that I can’t give my little boy who is feeling better am extra day at home. I’m sure he’ll wake up in the morning and be super excited to go back to morah.

amother

Bottlebrush

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 7:35 pm

If he doesn’t have fever for 24 hours then you can send him guilt free. My daughter also has the flu since Thursday. She only had fever for 2 days, but does have a bad cold still. But she’s not contagious and was full of energy for the past few days. And she’s going crazy being home. She was home almost all week for Chanukah vacation and then got sick.

Adeana

Yesterday at 6:56 am

This is such a hard situation to be in but If it’s a little kid (playgroup age) , I’d maybe send him with his blanket and ask the morah to let him sit with it on the side if he seems tired…
But obviously only if he has no fever etc… sometimes even without being contagious the body still needs a couple days to regain its energy back.
If it a big kid that would need to sit at a desk and follow directions etc that’s harder and I don’t have any solutions 😔it’s so sad that this is the way society runs nowadays… run run runnnnn and kids need to run with us sometimes 😣

I just realized you wrote he’ll be excited to go to Morah. If the child wants to go then I don’t see the problem. I thought the child needs another day off but you weren’t capable of that.. Refuah shleima to all!