Can’t afford Chanukah gifts for the kids 😢

amother

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Yesterday at 7:53 pm

amother Burntblack wrote:

Then that's not the world YOU live in.

Im 40. I've gotten Chanukah presents from my parents and grandparents my whole life.
My husband also.

My mother is 65. She got presents from her parents and grandparents her whole life.
My mil did also
My fil was not frum, raised by survivors. He got gelt from his parents and survivor uncles.

So yes, I give gifts.

My kids have at times made lists for grandparents at the grandparents request. Mainly because the grandparents want to give something they know the child will appreciate without disclosing the budget. So my kid will write fire truck, toolset, CD, blocks and the grandparents will choose something from that list within their budget.

Just because you don't do gifts doesn't mean you need to knock and criticize OP.

I'm 32 and never got chanuka presents and never gave to my kids (oldest is 10)
I'm not knocking OP but I will say I'm grateful that chanuka presents are not a thing in my family and I won't get stuck in sticky situations like OP is dealing with

amother

Coffee

Yesterday at 11:44 pm

I don't have time to read through the thread...maybe someone else already suggested this. But when it comes to teens I don't always do material gifts. I usually do scratch-off cards with good stuff and chores on them. We play dreidel or some other similar game and they get cards instead of money. At the end, they get to trade, not knowing what's underneath each sticker. Then they scratch off and see what they got.
I have all sorts of things like "I will drive you to school one day" to "unload the dishwasher". They always tell me that this is the highlight of their chanukah no matter what else I end up doing or they end up getting.

Hatzlacha.

amother

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Yesterday at 11:55 pm

amother Coffee wrote:

That’s such a cute idea!! Ty

amother

Seashell

Today at 1:44 am

amother Grape wrote:

another idea that’s gone over well: the company dash makes very cute mini appliances. most are btwn 10-20. mini soft serve ice cream maker (makes individual portion) it’s 19.99. and they have mini popcorn maker. there are mini waffle makers. would ur teens be excited to get those? they look adorable. and then it also doubles as a fun chanukah activity. you sit and whip up yummy stuff to eat and then play a game or wtvr. I know thts not $5 so not sure you could swing it but its very cute and very appreciated with the girls and has a lot of fun use. think motzei shabbos with their friends etc. so suggesting it if its doable for you and useful. good luck! and I hope your situation turns around for the better real soon!

Amazon has a mini blender for 15 bucks looks adorable!

amother

Sapphire

Today at 3:07 am

amother Copper wrote:

I don't mean to be inconsiderate or rude or insensitive, and I feel for your financial difficulties. We also struggle financially. But....
This literally sounds like Xmas to me. Kids have lists of what they want, and they expect gifts? And not having money for "Chanuka gifts" is a sad thing to cry over? A yearly necessity? A given? It literally sounds like lists for santa, each child expecting an Official Big Chanuka Gift.
And I'm reminded yet again of why I'm happy we don't do this in our family.
Sorry to be blunt. It had to be said.

Nope it doesn’t have to be said. You literally just posted on her thread that your family is better because you don’t do gifts…..

I am a BT and when my kids were young we went to a rebbe in boro park and discussed Chanukah. He advised us to buy the kids gifts every night so they wouldn’t feel they were missing out on all the family time and parties etc. Over the years we also started doing lists especially as my kids got to the teen years because it made things easier for me. My kids in general always have a running wishlist which I use to shop from for birthdays Chanukah, graduation and anything else that involves gift giving. Nothing to do with Xmas or Santa.

I am also struggling this year and we won’t be doing gifts for the first time in over 15 years. I don’t think it will be a big deal because bh my kids have all the things they need. I got a lot of great ideas from this thread and I am quite confident my kids will have a nice Chanukah either way.