Chanukah Gift daughter in Law

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 9:18 pm

amother Glitter wrote:

Ask your son if there’s something particular that she would want

He actually came to ask me what he’s supposed to get Wink

amother

Dandelion

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 9:21 pm

amother OP wrote:

He actually came to ask me what he’s supposed to get Wink

Been married for 15 years and my mother in law never gave me a chanuka present.
Things I’d appreciate: gift card to a restaurant. Gift card to massage. Money to do a home improvement job.

amother

Azure

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 9:22 pm

Gifts my MIL has gotten me:
A nice tablecloth
A tray for my candles
Ugg slippers
A robe
A leather megillah
A vase with flowers
A necklace
She also makes me favorite foods and sends me some.

Yes I know I’m the luckiest.

amother

Turquoise

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 9:26 pm

amother OP wrote:

Any ideas in the $50 range for a newish daughter in law. No kids yet

So nice! My first Chanukah married my in laws got me a purse. I never carried anything larger than wallet size before then so they got me something bigger. It’s been 5 years and I still use it

Amelia Bedelia

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 11:00 pm

Does she have a Betty Crocker pizza maker?

This is also great- so good I went and bought one for Pesach and one for all year. A breeze to use and a breeze to clean and doesn't take up too much space
Zyliss Easy Pull Food Processor - Pull Chopper and Manual Food Processor - Handheld Vegetable Slicer and Dicer - For Travel, Camping, Small Kitchens and RVs - Dishwasher Safe https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00U.....ss_tl

amother

Firebrick

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 11:31 pm

Jewelry box, perfume, fancy makeup bag, Waterdale has gorgeous things- match holder, leather bencher sets,leather hafrashas card,
Gift certificate in cookie corner or such type place, earbuds, anything ugg, keurig machine,
Bathroom towels or Anything personalized..

amother

Melon

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 11:36 pm

Amelia Bedelia wrote:

Oo this. A pizza maker! Love this idea

familyfirst

Mon, Dec 16 2024, 11:44 pm

To the daughter In law who mocked the mother in law gifts-

Actually- you should be ashamed of yourself. Your mother Iin law bought gifts to show her love. They were all items that are useable. She meant well. No, they’re not personal personal but they show she thought of her family.

She doesn’t owe you a gift. You married her son. I hope you bought her something.

amother

Plum

Yesterday at 1:54 pm

I would be careful with buying cookbook, domo and the like, unless it was something she specifically asked for, or you know she's missing. Otherwise she might not appreciate it.
I got as a gift a beautiful hadlokos neiros card/bentcher that I use every week. And they gave dh a havdala one.
Personalized stuff is also cute-assuming she would use it-water bottle, make-up bag that type of thing. Best DIL mug filled with chocolates?

amother

Lawngreen

Yesterday at 2:00 pm

amother OP wrote:

I guess if I can’t think of anything else I can do the gift card. Was just hoping to find an actual gift not a gift card cuz all my other kids will be getting gifts by the Chanukah party
And as other ima mothers pointed out. I want something for her not for house/kitchen…

A brand name perfume. My daughter got from her mil and she loves it
We are Hungarian so brands make a difference.
You have to know if she's the type.

amother

Cadetblue ↓

Yesterday at 2:02 pm

amother Geranium wrote:

So thoughtful of you! I wish my mil would buy me a nice gift just once. She just buys a bunch of random things from Wal-Mart or similar and randomly gifts that to me and my sisters in law. In the past, I got a mug, a cutting board, a cork screw, can't remember what else. Oh yeah, it a was a neck pillow for travel.

I don't care that much about the cost but it would be nice to know that she thought about me and bought a gift that she thought I'd appreciate rather than how she just buys 4 different random things and hands them to us in whatever order they come out of the bag.

She actually is thinking of you as well as all her dil's all the time. Those token gifts are her constantly showing you that.

If you were at the store and there was say a clearance bin of good deals and you got a bunch for your sisters, and randomly they got whichever one they got, does that show you weren’t caring and thinking of your sisters?

Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Yesterday at 2:04 pm

You can never go wrong with a mainstream giftcard like Amazon.
If you buy a gift I always suggest to attach an exchange voucher, especially if you are a MIL.

↑ watergirl ↓

Yesterday at 2:06 pm

amother Cadetblue wrote:

I’m not that amother. But if that MIL is like my mil, it’s not a token. It’s stuff she found laying around her house, used or not. Dirty or not. Throws it in a gift bag, gives it as a gift. I’ve received trash before - an old purse, dirty and with trash inside. And worse.

amother

Bellflower

Yesterday at 2:14 pm

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

You can never go wrong with a mainstream giftcard like Amazon.
If you buy a gift I always suggest to attach an exchange voucher, especially if you are a MIL.

This 1000 times
Give her a gift card that she can choose a gift she likes without having to check in with anyone. My best gifts are vouchers that I can spend on what I like when I like. Then a small purchase )eg lipstick, nicer brand soap etc feels like a huge treat.

amother

↑ Cadetblue ↓

Yesterday at 2:14 pm

watergirl wrote:

Hers is going to the store and buying stuff. Clearly not the most skilled at gift giving. But the feelings and thoughts seem present by the way she posted.
Yours has bigger issues. Does she hate you or is she a holocaust survivor or a victim of severe abuse?

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Yesterday at 2:14 pm

amother Geranium wrote:

You don't appreciate useful things like the said cork screw, mug and cutting board? You have zero use for them?
You may regift them if you don't like them.
Many DIL's don't get anything from their MIL's. Would you prefer that?

↑ watergirl ↓

Yesterday at 2:19 pm

amother Cadetblue wrote:

BH she does not hate me, nor is she a survivor of anything that I know of. I am a second wife, remarried now more than double the time her son was married to his ex. Almost 20 years. I know she is mad his ex never gave back the gifts she'd given her (why would she give back her weird gifts? but that's her, she feels gifts go back to the giver in every scenario).

But the point is that not every MIL is being thoughtful when they give gifts. You have to know the person. Sometimes they really are trying to be sweet when they give you an umbrella stand or corkscrew opener. Sometimes it's a mean gesture. You have to know the MIL.