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amother
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Today at 5:47 pm
So yeah, im the one started that poll asking for new forum.
In the meantime I'll post here, I don't have access to the teenage otd forum anyway.
(I'm using "they" "their" for privacy reasons not to reveal gender)
My otd kid is a full grown adult with own life in another country. I always avoid answering their messages when I know it's still Shabbos and I have to keep making calculations. For their part they try to avoid messaging me or our family group on Shabbos but sometimes forgets.
My question is what to do about the family group. We are in a few different time zones. I've asked other kids to be mindful but some forget and the others don't really think it's an issue because they are breaking Shabbos anyway.
So I can only really focus on myself.
do I have to avoid posting on the family group because even if they don't respond they might be reading it? Does the fact that I'm not writing to them personally change things?
Also the others, that Shabbos is out for, are posting anyway.
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amother
Glitter
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Today at 5:57 pm
This is a question for a Rav.
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amother
Whitewash
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Today at 6:25 pm
We have a family whatsapp chat that includes alot of extended family members. Some are not frum. The ones that are not frum are usually mindful not to post on Shabbos. Occasionally I will see a deleted post (they posted on Shabbos and then deleted it)
However they will post pictures that are not tznuis and pictures that clearly show that they aren't eating kosher food.
I don't let my kids join until they are adults (the admin asks parents first for permission)
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amother
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Today at 6:35 pm
amother Whitewash wrote: | We have a family whatsapp chat that includes alot of extended family members. Some are not frum. The ones that are not frum are usually mindful not to post on Shabbos. Occasionally I will see a deleted post (they posted on Shabbos and then deleted it)
However they will post pictures that are not tznuis and pictures that clearly show that they aren't eating kosher food.
I don't let my kids join until they are adults (the admin asks parents first for permission) | this is immediate family only and only one not frum. They are usually mindful when and what they post but my question is regarding posting to the whole group when it's Shabbos for that one member knowing they might read it
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amother
Periwinkle
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Today at 7:11 pm
I am a sister with one adult sibling OTD and in a chat of siblings and parents across different time zones, like you.
OTD is respectful and doesn't post on the chat when it is shabbos for them.
I am careful not to post on family chat when it is shabbos for them, so as not to cause them to be nichshal.
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giftedmom
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Today at 7:29 pm
amother OP wrote: | So yeah, im the one started that poll asking for new forum.
In the meantime I'll post here, I don't have access to the teenage otd forum anyway.
(I'm using "they" "their" for privacy reasons not to reveal gender)
My otd kid is a full grown adult with own life in another country. I always avoid answering their messages when I know it's still Shabbos and I have to keep making calculations. For their part they try to avoid messaging me or our family group on Shabbos but sometimes forgets.
My question is what to do about the family group. We are in a few different time zones. I've asked other kids to be mindful but some forget and the others don't really think it's an issue because they are breaking Shabbos anyway.
So I can only really focus on myself.
do I have to avoid posting on the family group because even if they don't respond they might be reading it? Does the fact that I'm not writing to them personally change things?
Also the others, that Shabbos is out for, are posting anyway. |
This is a question for a rav. Dh has clients and colleagues who are Jewish in different time zones and has a rav advising him regarding these issues.
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happy chick
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Today at 7:33 pm
Like the others said, this is a question for a rav.
But I would imagine posting on a family group is different than messaging said child directly.
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amother
Cyclamen
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Today at 10:02 pm
This might sound extreme but if I was admin of the group I would just disable comments til Shabbos out for everyone…
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amother
Peru
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Today at 10:16 pm
I am the frum one in my family chat. I am mindful not to answer or text in the group when it’s Shabbat for my family members.
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Tzutzie
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Today at 10:21 pm
Aylor. This is a halacha question.
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